Will I ever feel normal again?!


Question: Will I ever feel normal again.?
My husband slept with his sisters friend when we were seperated.( 9 months). I dated someone else too. We got back together. We have been together for 3 years since the seperation. 14 years in all. We have 4 kids. This girl is constantly throwing it in my face that she slept with him. I am so sick of hearing it! I even went to the police to see if I could do something for harrassment, but they can't do anything unless she does something criminal. I am still grieving the separation and him sleeping with her. I just can't get over it with her messing wiht me all the time.My husband says just ignore it. He is with me and loves me. I feel like I am losing my mind!!This is not getting better for me! I went to therapy it helped, but then this girl just keeps it going! Any suggestions on how to deal with this.? I need to get over it before I lose my mind!Health Question & Answer


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you just have to deal with it and dont let it eat away at you. She's just jealousHealth Question & Answer

Next time she says anything just say that the reason why he slept with her was because he was messed up because of the separation. Then ask her who he is with now.? YOU!
When you get the negative thoughts about her just remind yourself you also had a relationship with someone else and you weren't together, you don't get worked up over the girls he was with before he even met you so just think of it like that.
It is obviously you he loves so just remember that. Good luckHealth Question & Answer

Just say to her " it wasn't a that big a deal that you slept with my husband because he dumped you and is with me now. So you can't have been that special"
-Goodluck

...If all else fails, set her up for a criminal thingy and get her arrested. Your in the right! :)Health Question & Answer

If possible, have nothing to do with her. Change your phone number if she has it. Let your sister-in-law know where her friend stands in your life and that you want nothing to do with her. Your sister-in-law should respect your wishes. Don''t let this woman take up any space in your mind. Best Wishes to you.Health Question & Answer

you can go to any court and request a restraining order from a judge to prevent harrassment.Health Question & Answer

just go to her i slept with you dad or brother. XD...

no, she is just being immature, ignore her once she feels she gets no more attention she will probably stop. Play with her mind.Health Question & Answer

Beat her @$$ up. Don't take that s#%& from anyone. You are obviously the better woman because he is still at your side. Tear her apart, mentally.Health Question & Answer

I know this is going to sound outlandish, but here goes... Suggest that you and your husband and she all go to therapy together. Sit her down with the two of you, and an impartial person, and discuss how her constant harassment is bullying and unnecessary. Have your husband make it clear that she is no longer in the picture, and that you and he would like her to stop. If you are still grieving the infidelity and the separation, it sounds like you need more therapy anyway. If she has a husband or boyfriend, make sure that he is involved in this, too.Health Question & Answer

I think your husband needs to step and tell this girl to back off. She is obviously still hung up on your hubby and if he's truly back with you and committed to your marriage then he should be willing to do this to make sure it's clear that he has no plans of getting back with her.

You're in a tough place... wow.. I don't envy you at all.

It's obvious that this woman is trying to make you insecure and that shows me that she has no self-esteem either. She's trying to tear you down to make herself feel better. Get more self-esteem... work on your marriage, your image and your own self-worth.

And try to avoid contact with this woman... even if it means that you have to pull away from your sister in law.... it is NOT acceptable for your sister in law to condone her friends behavior.

Take ownership of your emotions and the way you are being treated by your hubby, your sister in law and this woman.

Good luck sister!

(hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs!)

I guess if you want to be very evil, you can get your hubby to start rumors that she is a skanky ho or bad in bed, etc... just to get under her skin, but if you let her get under your skin, then she wins.

"Anger is like giving your enemy free rent in your brain!"

Peace!Health Question & Answer

she's obivously trying to make you guys break up (probably so that she can get back with him) and its obvious that your husband has chosen you. remind her about that every time she brings it up, and it will probably stop. If she keeps it up, i would get a restraining order if you have the money and time to. Men usually aren't as sensitive as women, so your husband probably isn't going to give you the best advice. If she doesn't stop no matter what, you should get him to step him and tell her to get over it. If he refuses, get your sister to (she'll be on your side). I hope you feel better soon!Health Question & Answer



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