Mum with manic depression?!


Question: Mum with manic depression.?
my mum has manic depression, and I find hard to have conversations with her and there are long silences. What could I talk about to get her talking.? She lives by herself, and i'm her only close family, and I have seen her suffer heartache and lots or pain in her life. How can I make her more positive about things.?Health Question & Answer


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More than anything, just be there for her. She's your mum so it's not like you're company visiting her - you don't have to talk every minute. Try to take her for walks, even just around the block. Cook meals for her, make sure she eats healthy, work on little projects with her like helping her send out holiday cards or help to re-organize her closets, etc. (there's always stuff to do around the house), take her window shopping. The idea is to help your mum "live" as normal a life as she can with her condition. There will be days when all you can do is sit with her and watch TV, or maybe read to her, if she'll let you. The most important thing you need to remember is that she needs you there, even if she doesn't seem to appreciate it - it's nothing personal, it's just her illness. You're a good daughter to take care of your mum - I see much good karma coming your way!Health Question & Answer

If it's manic it is really hard for you to get her chatty.However you can do things together without much chat.The theatre,the cinema,walks,jogging and exercising.Any activities together takes the pressure off her having to talk and because of this she will start to open up a bit to you.Just coming round for a chat is too demanding for her.Go shopping together,go with her to the hairdressers.Health Question & Answer

I sympathise with your problem. The best thing is to just keep talking to her. Don't think that it is like talking to someone else where you get responses all the time.

Treat her as a living diary. Tell her everything that is going on with you even if she doesn't respond.

You cannot 'make' her more positive, but you can give her the chance of being more positive about herself.

You need lots of patience. and you must never think this is your fault. It is an illness. Be patient, let her know you love her. No one can do more than that.Health Question & Answer

You can't make her do anything. I have a few friends who are bi-polar (it used to be called manic depression) & without medication it's REALLLY difficult to deal with them. Although each person is unique in their bi-polar, I find they're all pretty hard to dela with, esp. when they're low. I am sorry to say this & hope you can help your mum but the best thing for her right now might be to regulate a medication which will stabilise her moods. I really feel for you & your mother & hope she gets better.Health Question & Answer

Though people still call it manic depression...more times its now called bipolar disorder. Does she see a mental health therapist or take medication for the bipolar.? If not you can suggest it to her. If she's resistant to going, tell her that a lot of people take medication to help cope with mood swings. Good Luck.Health Question & Answer

Have you any photos perhaps of family that you could initiate conversations about and ask questions.? If it were me I would appreciate my daughter taking an interest and getting me to focus on positive things in the past.Health Question & Answer



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