About phychology for sexual abuse? help please!?!


Question: About phychology for sexual abuse.? help please!.?
If u read my other question, u would see what i mean. but i need to get help by a sexual abuse therapist. What do they do specificaly, and is there some kind of court/judge thing they go to.?.? It wasnt rape.... but well what if it happened more than 5 years ago, and u dont want to sue or do anything to the person that did it, you just want help for yourself...? LIke u dont want to go to court or anything like that to press charges or do anything to the person that abused, you just want help, is that ur choice or not.?.?.?.? and like the abusers were kids then.Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Hey there,

I am sorry for what happened you, I read your other question just so I could try and help you a bit more. I am guessing you are still very young right now. If you feel you want to talk to someone for example a counsellor about what happened to help you then they would just talk with you about what happened, how you feel and try and help you feel better about it and always remind you that anything of this nature was not your fault at all! They don't go to any judge etc. Anything you tell a counsellor is confidential, which means it stays between you and them unless you say its ok for her to tell or if she thinks your in danger from possibly being abused again or something.

Because your abuser was also a child I am not sure that it is seen as sexual abuse by the law, so even if you wanted to press charges I don't think you could (although I am not 100% sure about that). However this does not mean that what happened to you wasn't traumatic and you have every right to get help from a counsellor etc.

Nothing will go to to court or anything like that unless you ask for it to happen so don't worry about that.

it is totally your choice to just get help for yourself and that is ok and very maure of you.

You said in your other questions that you cry at night because you are scared about getting problems when you are older from being sexually abused. Honestly don't be worrying yourself like that. many people who are sexually abused, even very badly sometimes dont have any problems at all, everyone is different. The worry of possibily having problems is probably causing a bigger problem for you now than you will experience when your older, so try to remember that.

what happened to you as a child does actually happen to many children who played with other children growing up, it's nothing to be ashamed of and it wasn't your fault. Your cousin shouldn't have done that to you and he should have known better as he was quite a bit older than you, however he too was still a child in the eyes of he law and maybe he was just curious about a girls body and didn't think he was hurting you. It's hard for me to say.

I know it can be upsetting though as the same thing happened to me by another child and I know I used to feel bad about it.

I hope I helped you in some way and if you feel you need some more help maybe it would be a good idea to think about talking to a counsellor.

best of luck
xHealth Question & Answer

The law is that to be prosecuted for child abuse the abuser has to be 5 years older that the child he abused. You really do need therapy for this as it can and will be a life long problem for you. You may not understand the severe impact that it had on you now but it will cause you problems in life if you don't deal with it now. you are lucky in that you seem to be very young now so help is much easier than treating it as an adult. If the abuser was 5 years or more older than you then he needs help, as he will continue to do this and have a severe impact on others like you. It is your decision to make. You can choose not to prosecute and if he was 5 years younger than it is not a legal issue. Please take care and get into therapy.Health Question & Answer

Most any mental health counselor can provide therapy focused on trauma and abuse history. Check out your local mental health clinic, and see if you can get an initial intake or evaluation.Health Question & Answer



The consumer health information on youqa.cn is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions.
The answer content post by the user, if contains the copyright content please contact us, we will immediately remove it.
Copyright © 2007-2012 YouQA.cn -   Terms of Use -   Contact us

Health Q&A Resources