Bipolar disorder and the holidays?!


Question: Bipolar disorder and the holidays.?
My fiance was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a little over a year ago, and this year we are having Christmas at my parents' house. The problem is, my entire family is100% Italian, and they always get into arguments over dinner and stuff like that. All my aunts, uncles, and cousins are going to be there on Christmas Day, as well as my grandparents, so there will be a lot of people. No one in my family knows that my fiance has bipolar disorder, and no one has met him except my parents, and they only met him once. I'm just so afraid the atmosphere won't be good for him when everyone is over at the house, and I'm scared they won't understand if we have to leave early... I just don't know what to do if the environment gets too exciting for him. I don't want to disappoint my family, but it's more important to take care of my fiance. I really want him to have a good time and feel comfortable with them, and I don't want to be uneasy it gets too much for him.Health Question & Answer


Answers:
well one thing is for certain, you'll be a great wife since you really support and understand how things are for him. you shouldn't need to hide the fact he's bipolar, really. i think you should tell them because...it's not good to hold it in, especially for him. it'll be another step in your parents getting closer to your fiance! just talk to your love about it, ask him if he thinks you guys should tell them so they could understand if things get a little shaky for him. but if he starts to get that way, just hold his hand. comfort is always a good thing, obviously. ESPECIALLY for someone with BP. i am thankful that my girlfriend is really understanding about my bp, when she sees me getting a little jittery, sad, or a little frustrated, she always holds my hand and kisses me on the cheek. so that's my comfort tool when i'm getting caught up. if he's getting too excited, then pull him aside and see if he's okay with everything.

him being bipolar shouldn't be an issue for your family, and should not be kept a secret...i'm sure the both of you aren't ashamed of it. if some aunts and uncles don't understand, it's their faults. not your fiances. it clears the air a lot when people know. don't be afraid, have faith! i'm sure he's a very stable guy, and so it'd be a lot easier to clear the air.Health Question & Answer

Warn him ahead of time and give him some details about their arguments. Aunt so and so disagrees with this subject and ect. ect. Have him well prepared.Health Question & Answer



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