I'm bipolar. What would you do in this situation?!
Question: I'm bipolar. What would you do in this situation.?
Hi! I feel a little silly for even bringing the situation up, but I guess some outside opinions couldn't hurt anything. Here goes:
So, I'm 22 w/ BP disorder and I've known this girl (who just turned 19) for a little over 2 years. We're practically best buds now and over the past few months I've thought alot about us being more than just friends. I've heard from a few of her friends that the feeling's mutual and it's kinda obvious (in a nice way). She's been really supportive of me as best as she can be.
So the problem is I'm terrified of hurting her. Growing up I've always gotten alot of attention from girls and just generally have seen the good and the ugly of the world. She, on the other hand, has never had a boyfriend, and is just so innocent..... and great. I mean she might take offense to me saying that, but anyone else would tell you too, she's an angel. (She has her flaws, but as of yet I don't mind them)
Well, if you're reading this question you're probably aware that BP disorder can wreak havoc on relationships and has in the past for me. It's not like we're a couple now, but I'm scared to even have feelings for her. I feel awful about past arguments and trust issues with others, and I say to myself "I just can't put this particular girl through that". Anyway, she's back in town from school for the holidays. Lately she's seemed a little preoccupied and the conversation has been suffering. Yesterday, I called it an early night bc her phone kept going off and the whole thing just felt forced. Didn't make it into a big deal, just told her I felt like going home. The thing is, in my mind it was a big deal. It kept me up last night and I'm (obviously) still thinking about it. And it stings still. I think obsessively about these kinda things. It wouldn't be a problem if I could just blame it all on the BP disorder, but she really has been mentally preoccupied lately and it's frustrating. I know it's just human to overthink things when a loved one hurts you, but I think for me, it's a little more unhealthy than what most people experience. So..... (thanks for being patient) here's the question: IF YOU HAD A TENDENCY TO BLOW THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION, WOULD YOU BRING UP HER BEHAVIOR OR JUST LEAVE IT BE.?Health Question & Answer
So, I'm 22 w/ BP disorder and I've known this girl (who just turned 19) for a little over 2 years. We're practically best buds now and over the past few months I've thought alot about us being more than just friends. I've heard from a few of her friends that the feeling's mutual and it's kinda obvious (in a nice way). She's been really supportive of me as best as she can be.
So the problem is I'm terrified of hurting her. Growing up I've always gotten alot of attention from girls and just generally have seen the good and the ugly of the world. She, on the other hand, has never had a boyfriend, and is just so innocent..... and great. I mean she might take offense to me saying that, but anyone else would tell you too, she's an angel. (She has her flaws, but as of yet I don't mind them)
Well, if you're reading this question you're probably aware that BP disorder can wreak havoc on relationships and has in the past for me. It's not like we're a couple now, but I'm scared to even have feelings for her. I feel awful about past arguments and trust issues with others, and I say to myself "I just can't put this particular girl through that". Anyway, she's back in town from school for the holidays. Lately she's seemed a little preoccupied and the conversation has been suffering. Yesterday, I called it an early night bc her phone kept going off and the whole thing just felt forced. Didn't make it into a big deal, just told her I felt like going home. The thing is, in my mind it was a big deal. It kept me up last night and I'm (obviously) still thinking about it. And it stings still. I think obsessively about these kinda things. It wouldn't be a problem if I could just blame it all on the BP disorder, but she really has been mentally preoccupied lately and it's frustrating. I know it's just human to overthink things when a loved one hurts you, but I think for me, it's a little more unhealthy than what most people experience. So..... (thanks for being patient) here's the question: IF YOU HAD A TENDENCY TO BLOW THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION, WOULD YOU BRING UP HER BEHAVIOR OR JUST LEAVE IT BE.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Just leave it be...... you really don't want to hurt the friendship/relationship you already have with her. I know when I get like this I try to just make myself STOP thinking so negatively.Usually anything I'm thinking TOO much about I've already blown way out of proportion & it's usually completely FALSE.So I try to make myself keep asking, OK what if this is true, what's the very worst part of it .? Now what's the very best .? (if it helps at all, I do the same thing & usually drive my husband insane asking a million completely "out of the blue" totally false questions & stuff.~I think it's just the nature of the beast)
And after your thinking has calmed down, maybe get together with her, tell her how you feel & let her know you are afraid of hurting her & why, but that you really care for her ALOT. Good Luck & Best Wishes !Health Question & Answer
And after your thinking has calmed down, maybe get together with her, tell her how you feel & let her know you are afraid of hurting her & why, but that you really care for her ALOT. Good Luck & Best Wishes !Health Question & Answer
If you are bipolar and you know it, tell her the truth. You said she was into you, so be honest. If she accepts it you still have a hard road ahead. But if she doesn't accept it, you've saved yourself a lot of heartbreak.
Don't try to hide it!!! It will bite you in the #ss!!!
And your perception of her behavior is just that; your perception!!
Leave it alone and just be as charming as you can be!!!!!!
She will or she won't. Accept it now, before you even speak to her again!!Health Question & Answer
Don't try to hide it!!! It will bite you in the #ss!!!
And your perception of her behavior is just that; your perception!!
Leave it alone and just be as charming as you can be!!!!!!
She will or she won't. Accept it now, before you even speak to her again!!Health Question & Answer
I think I would leave it be - try to let it go this time. I mean if it's something that keeps happening - sure, confront her.
My husband is Bi-Polar and was only diagnosed a few years ago - we've been together for about 20 years now - started dating at 15 - anyway - my advice after living with this and wanting to give up so many times: if you are not already medicated - get medicated. If you are medicated - please take it faithfully! It truly helps. =) Good luck.Health Question & Answer
My husband is Bi-Polar and was only diagnosed a few years ago - we've been together for about 20 years now - started dating at 15 - anyway - my advice after living with this and wanting to give up so many times: if you are not already medicated - get medicated. If you are medicated - please take it faithfully! It truly helps. =) Good luck.Health Question & Answer
She is your friend ~ ask her. Sounds like you really like her, so go for it. Just keep your communication open & honest. (This is good in all relationships, not just for bipolar people ~ lol)Health Question & Answer
As one BP person to another, my best advice is to tell yourself just as you did. Your blowing things out of proportion. It's just a phone ringing, shes not doing anything to out right hurt you. She may be just preoccupied because of school, family or many others things. If it really is bothering you so much, why not ask her if she okay, tell her she seems preoccupied and ask if there's anything you can do to help.
I get the same way and think people are being rude, they are just trying to blow me off. I myself have blown up at someone for thinking things are not as they really are.
Just because she has never had a boyfriend and you get a lot of attention from the opposite sex, makes me think your thinking like someone who is manic. If you really want to try this time, sit back and listen to yourself. Think before you speak. I know it's much easier said then done, but your here asking for advice that's a good start.
So like I said before ask her if she okay and if there's something you can do, believe me you'll feel a whole lot better.
Take care and never give up!Health Question & Answer
I get the same way and think people are being rude, they are just trying to blow me off. I myself have blown up at someone for thinking things are not as they really are.
Just because she has never had a boyfriend and you get a lot of attention from the opposite sex, makes me think your thinking like someone who is manic. If you really want to try this time, sit back and listen to yourself. Think before you speak. I know it's much easier said then done, but your here asking for advice that's a good start.
So like I said before ask her if she okay and if there's something you can do, believe me you'll feel a whole lot better.
Take care and never give up!Health Question & Answer
Are you currently taking medication for your disorder.?
I would let her know how you felt about the hole situation. Maybe she is seeing someone else.Health Question & Answer
I would let her know how you felt about the hole situation. Maybe she is seeing someone else.Health Question & Answer
my mom has it and her mnarriage lasted like 20 years so go for it and jus trewat her like u always would if she rejects u or it doesnt work outHealth Question & Answer