How can i cope about my brothers Death.?!


Question: How can i cope about my brothers Death..?
i'm 13 years old right now and i feel terrible! My brother would be 22 next month if he had not overdosed on drugs. The only thing that feels good is cutting myself.Health Question & Answer


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Time won't make the fact your brother died feel any better that's just something nice people say for what reason I do not know. I am autistic so I never know what people say some things. Your brother's death will always hurt in some way because, you knew him and you loved him. The bond you had as brothers was strong because, it was made out of the purest kind of love their is. Even when you grow up and get married the kind of love you have for your wife won't be the kind of strength of the love you had and have with your brother.

You will learn to deal with the fact your brother is no longer with you on Earth but you will never be over it. You will go on with your life, grow up be a good strong man, have a family and build a successfully life but you will never get over it. Time does not heal wounds it is love that heals wounds. Love will take time to heal your wounds this is true. Your brother loved you and he still loves you. Love lasts forever. There is no expiration date on your brothers love for you. You see your brother is a part of who you are now. You are the only one who knew him best of all. The best of your brother lives on in you now. The best part of your brothers soul is part of your soul now but you must love it and care for it to live fully in your deeds and words.

Your brother did drugs that is a sad thing. Your brother did drugs and either made a mistake or his body just failed because of what the drugs did to him. You know your brother would never have left you willingly. Drugs change people in ways that are not nice. Drugs are not a sickness of the mind they are a sickness of that hurts or changes their ability to share love. Drugs make love harder to share with the people you care about. Your brother loved and loves you.

You cut yourself because, you want to feel something. You might want to punish yourself. The pain of cutting yourself might feel for the moment like it cancels out the pain of your brothers death. Unfortunately by cutting yourself you are doing the same thing that led to your brothers death. When you cut yourself it releases feel good chemicals in your brain called endorphins. These chemicals act just like street drugs but they are made entirely in your brain. Cutting brings you a sense of peace but like a drug the good feeling eventually wears off and you feel the painful urge to cut again. Cutting becomes so much a part of your life in time you start acting just like an addict. The only difference is cutting is your fix. You start being a cutting junkie.

Your brother would not want you to repeat his mistake. Your brother put all his hopes in seeing you become something awesome in life. Talk to people you trust about seeing a doctor so you can find better ways to feel good. Dude you have suffered a pain most grown men could not handle. You need help. It is not a sign of weakness to say you need help. Being able to reach out for help is the sign of a strong man. You have to make your life count so everything your good brother taught you might have done is done by you in his name. You see your brothers love will guide you and protect you in life if you respect his memory by respecting yourself.

Please stay strong my man. I know your heart is broken. Just stop hurting yourself and seek the help of a good doctor. Talk to someone who can help you. Family member, school teacher, minister or respected friend. I hope I helped you.Health Question & Answer

Cutting yourself is not the answer.

When I was your age, 13-14, i would cut myself. I look back and realize that I had other options. It's not worth it, you'll have regretful scars that last a lifetime.

I lost a friend about a year ago, and it was really hard for everyone. It helped talking about it with others. Try talking to somebody that also was close to your brother.

Maybe try going to church and talking with someone there if you are religious.

Good luck, and remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! There are people out there that care about you and would love to help.Health Question & Answer

I am very sorry for your loss. Being a teenager is hard enough without having to lose a close family member, my thoughts are with you.

Talk to someone, anyone: your parents, grandparents, a trusted friend, the parent of a friend, a teacher or guidance councelor at school, a pastor or someone at church. Talk to someone and let your feelings out in a safe constructive manner (not cutting). There are grief councelors that might be able to help you cope with your loss.

I hope this helps and I wish you the Merriest Christmas possible in this sad time for you and your family. (This time of year is often the hardest when you've lost someone).Health Question & Answer

Honey don't do that Can you talk to someone about it
My brother shot himself 2 years ago
I had the worst time for a whole year i wanted to kill myself too
It was so bad i wouldn't even go out of my house
I finally talked to a counselor and I kept going for quite a while
it really helped
I didn't have a Mom or anyone else to talk to about it
If you can't talk to your Mom or cousin oraunty or Dad tallk to your couselor at school It really will help
Just be honest and spill it all out in time you will start feeling better
email me if you like but your brother wouldn't want you to be cutting on yourself So talk to someone about it and let me know how you are doing
Best wishes and I am so sorry for your lossHealth Question & Answer

You know... other people are going through the same situation... but think about your brother, if he's in heaven and looking down on you, do you think he'll want his own brother to suffer because of him.? Try get your self distracted from your problems. Go and have fun with your friends, see a movie, etc. Definately ask for professional help, talk about it to your parents, I'm sure they'll understand what you're going through. When your 13 your mind changes and you'll begin to feel stressed out alot (I'm 13) and thinking about your brother will add more stress. Be happy and live the life that your brother couldn't. Someday you'll find happiness!

Best of luck!Health Question & Answer

Cutting yourself is not a solution. If it feels good then you need help. It's not a normal grief. Instead, you can play with yr PS or whatever you have, pick a sport and try to be good at it in school, become competitive and kick ***es. But don't cut yourself. It's not gonna do you any good. Time will change everything.Health Question & Answer

find an epic project that he'd be proud of you for working on.
book/magazine/art/science/languages/ understanding biblical concepts(become a guardian)/make something good for the masses (youtube.?).. learn about how best to take care of ppl..
at 13, i'd suggest getting your GED and taking college classes (from 3rd-12th grades they really dont teach much... maybe you've noticed.?) public school is literally designed to give you blocks against learning.Health Question & Answer

Your brother wouldn't want you to cut yourself would he.? I doubt it. Try finding someone who will listen to you (friend, school counselor, family) and just talk. Don't bottle up your emotions and don't take them out on yourself or anyone. This is probably a good time to make a goal of being straight edge too. It takes time to move on from someone you love. Even then you really can never let them go.Health Question & Answer

Oh im so sorry.
I don't think you should cut your self. I don't think that will help any.
You could try to talk to someone like someone at school, or go to www.headspace.com.au there u can talk to someone that knows what there talking about. or write in a journal and express your feelings there.
Or you could try praying or talking to a pastor or something.
:)Health Question & Answer

You are in pain. It is a normal state. Grief is a part of life. Its a mental pain and you are cutting yourself to make sense of the pain. " I need to have a reason to hurt this bad..and pain only makes sense if its physical." That, is essentially what is going on in your head. There is no right or wrong way to deal with grief. But there are unhealthy ways and cutting is one of them. I have dealt with many client in hypnosis that have told me journaling is a very healthy outlet.Write down what is making you angry/sad/mad/disappointed all the stages of grief that are natural. You will get thru this. It will hurt less over time. But not because you have forgotten your brother, but that you can remember the best times..Time does heal... Its a horrible thing to lose someone but it is a part of life..sooner or later we all go..
My favorite quote is one from Theodore Geisel... And I may be paraphrasing the original.. but... He said... Dont cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. Remember your brother. The good parts and the bad... the fights anf the fun. I have sisters and I know we fought... but there were a lot of good times. It is life. Instead of cutting... take your emotions and direct them toward something less destructive...especially self destructive. Draw..paint...sketch... write... let all the feelings pour out in a more beneficial way... You will learn something about yourself and you will heal.

If you are a person of faith... pray. If not...then sit quietly and find the emotions.Dont blame yourself.Health Question & Answer

try to ask yourself what your brother would want for you. would he like you hurting yourself.?
the death of a loved one is painful, you should talk to your parents about seeing a professional you can be open with
and prayHealth Question & Answer

time will make it feel better. don't hurt yourself its not what your brother would want you to do. Your life will go on trust me Pray about it. He listens to everything at any time.Health Question & Answer



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