Any one else feeling down today?!
Question: Any one else feeling down today.?
I feel like everyone is on my case at the moment. Recently I've been getting stick from my boyfriend - he wants me to change jobs, and puts pressure on me to jobsearch. So much so he'll actually look 'for me' and present me with printouts of high pressured travelling sales jobs that I really don't want to do! He also thinks I don't exercise enough, and is very jealous that I 'spend too much time on YA' and thinks I'm flirting with other users (not true). He said he doesn't like me communicating with other people.
My boss told me off this morning for being late - I start at 8.30 but am supposed to be in at 8.25. This morning I arrive 8.30 dead on. I don't get much feed-back from him and mostly feel like I'm not good enough and can't do anything right. He'll often ask me to take the blame for things 'we'll the customer it's because you're useless!' Whilst I know this is in jest, he laughs so much I can't help but feel it's because he finds truth in it.
My mother is in need of a lot of support at the moment, as my brother is not treating her well. She calls me everyday for about an hour, usually after a few whiskeys, and talks at me about him. She does ask about me and my life, but doesn't seem to want to hear the answer and will quickly turn the conversation back to herself. She's hard work basically. If I explain I'm in the middle of dinner when she calls, she gives me an 'Oh... ok then, BYE' and makes me feel guilty no matter how many times I apologise.
I realise there are people out there a lot worse off than me. But I feel like everyone is on my case at the moment! Most days I can deal with them all ok - but today it's really getting to me for some reason.
Any advice would be much appreciated.Health Question & Answer
My boss told me off this morning for being late - I start at 8.30 but am supposed to be in at 8.25. This morning I arrive 8.30 dead on. I don't get much feed-back from him and mostly feel like I'm not good enough and can't do anything right. He'll often ask me to take the blame for things 'we'll the customer it's because you're useless!' Whilst I know this is in jest, he laughs so much I can't help but feel it's because he finds truth in it.
My mother is in need of a lot of support at the moment, as my brother is not treating her well. She calls me everyday for about an hour, usually after a few whiskeys, and talks at me about him. She does ask about me and my life, but doesn't seem to want to hear the answer and will quickly turn the conversation back to herself. She's hard work basically. If I explain I'm in the middle of dinner when she calls, she gives me an 'Oh... ok then, BYE' and makes me feel guilty no matter how many times I apologise.
I realise there are people out there a lot worse off than me. But I feel like everyone is on my case at the moment! Most days I can deal with them all ok - but today it's really getting to me for some reason.
Any advice would be much appreciated.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Hey sweetie,
I feel for you honey, it's not good to be feeling like you do.
A few points for your boyf:
You know he's trying to be supportive and he's trying to better your career, you appreciate it etc, but you're better off finding your own job because then your heart is really in it. also, with the current financial climate, it would be better to get yourself sorted at your current place of work rather than be last in first out at a new place. You might have to try and get in a bit earlier and have a chat with your boss - ask him what he really thinks.
You have a lot of pressures, from your Mum, Brother, Boyf, Boss etc. The reason it's hitting you so hard is because a) it's happening, but b) you're letting it get to you.
Try doing something for yourself, join a dance class or a gym, see your mates, do a course in something you'd like to learn more about. Any of these will give you more confidence about yourself.
Then, when you get moaned at, at work or home or over the phone, you WILL feel better because you will get some 'me-time' which is soooooo important for your mental health.
It might well be that you're hearing more negative things than are being spoken, because you're in a negative place. Maybe you could talk to your bor and tell him how your Mum's phone calls are affecting you and he needs to pull his finger out and help with the responsibility. Your Mum is in a similar state, negativity wise, because she feels that everything is against her, she is so lucky to have you but it will be easier to support her if you're happier in your life.
Men don't really get the whole YA thing. My boyf was the same, why do I want to help others when I have recently been made redundant and should be looking for a job and exercising and stuff.... The point is, it does make me feel better because I feel I can help people like you. This is not a frivolous problem, but some are - where can I find curtains etc.?!!!! It still makes me feel better because it's nice to know I can help - that's why you and loads of us like it.
Sweetie, you're the best thing about you, you're unique! You have to start investing time in yourself and you will find the benefits. Everything else in your life will alter as well.
Good luck honey :-)Health Question & Answer
I feel for you honey, it's not good to be feeling like you do.
A few points for your boyf:
You know he's trying to be supportive and he's trying to better your career, you appreciate it etc, but you're better off finding your own job because then your heart is really in it. also, with the current financial climate, it would be better to get yourself sorted at your current place of work rather than be last in first out at a new place. You might have to try and get in a bit earlier and have a chat with your boss - ask him what he really thinks.
You have a lot of pressures, from your Mum, Brother, Boyf, Boss etc. The reason it's hitting you so hard is because a) it's happening, but b) you're letting it get to you.
Try doing something for yourself, join a dance class or a gym, see your mates, do a course in something you'd like to learn more about. Any of these will give you more confidence about yourself.
Then, when you get moaned at, at work or home or over the phone, you WILL feel better because you will get some 'me-time' which is soooooo important for your mental health.
It might well be that you're hearing more negative things than are being spoken, because you're in a negative place. Maybe you could talk to your bor and tell him how your Mum's phone calls are affecting you and he needs to pull his finger out and help with the responsibility. Your Mum is in a similar state, negativity wise, because she feels that everything is against her, she is so lucky to have you but it will be easier to support her if you're happier in your life.
Men don't really get the whole YA thing. My boyf was the same, why do I want to help others when I have recently been made redundant and should be looking for a job and exercising and stuff.... The point is, it does make me feel better because I feel I can help people like you. This is not a frivolous problem, but some are - where can I find curtains etc.?!!!! It still makes me feel better because it's nice to know I can help - that's why you and loads of us like it.
Sweetie, you're the best thing about you, you're unique! You have to start investing time in yourself and you will find the benefits. Everything else in your life will alter as well.
Good luck honey :-)Health Question & Answer
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