Suggestions for a serious topic?!? :(?!
Question: Suggestions for a serious topic.?!.? :(.?
Hi. I really need some good advice. I'm going to be 20 next month and I've been with my boyfriend for a year and we have been best friends even longer. We go way back, we are comfortable with each other. I have never been sexually active, he has before. We have never done "it" together. We have tried, but I was way too nervous before and I made him stop. I'm really ready this time. Mentally I am craving it and can't wait to do "it". My mental state is totally different than before.
I have a problem though. When we tried before it hurt me and was uncomfortable so I tensed up and got nervous making my muscles so tight....so tight that it's impossible for us to do "it". I know it's gonna be uncomfortable and it gets better as you go along, but I really do need to get over the initial time. Any suggestions on how to relax, not tense up, and make everything run a little smoother.? Thanks! Please, only helpful suggestions. I really appreciate it! Only positive thoughts :)Health Question & Answer
I have a problem though. When we tried before it hurt me and was uncomfortable so I tensed up and got nervous making my muscles so tight....so tight that it's impossible for us to do "it". I know it's gonna be uncomfortable and it gets better as you go along, but I really do need to get over the initial time. Any suggestions on how to relax, not tense up, and make everything run a little smoother.? Thanks! Please, only helpful suggestions. I really appreciate it! Only positive thoughts :)Health Question & Answer
Answers:
well make sure you are making the right decision first.
but what i would suggest is having him go very slow at first. like VERY slow and let him know that.
this is going to be weird to say, but have him go in a little at a time. and then once you feel the pain start to go away, have him go in a little further, and then you can progress.
good luck.Health Question & Answer
but what i would suggest is having him go very slow at first. like VERY slow and let him know that.
this is going to be weird to say, but have him go in a little at a time. and then once you feel the pain start to go away, have him go in a little further, and then you can progress.
good luck.Health Question & Answer