What would you do?as a fiance if your girl refuse to eat and you know that secretly she takes laxatives,?!


Question: What would you do.?as a fiance if your girl refuse to eat and you know that secretly she takes laxatives,.?
i want to know what men would do in such case,Health Question & Answer


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Sorry my answer's a sad one, but in my experience there'll be no getting through to her. Anorexics are caught up in a different world-view and simply aren't capable of seeing themselves as we see them. they are often very intelligent and will internally intellectualise a defence for any argument you make, so don't waste your breath trying to bully or coerce her. The causes of anorexia are varied and complex, so there's no quick-fix answer. If she's as lucky as my friend, she'll find self-realisation and turn into a beautiful, healthy woman, but the more you challenge her the more you'll drive her away. I hope you can be man enough to stick by her, and let her know you'll be there for her but you can't marry her yet. The stress of a wedding will only make her illness worsen. Postpone it until she's ready, but let her deal with it in her own time. Seek professional help for yourself as her carer, and ask your counsellor about the best way to support her through this.
Good luck to you both.Health Question & Answer

If I was engaged to a person with such a serious psychological and physical disorder, I'd insist on having it treated and resolved before any wedding would take place.

Marriage is hard enough without having your lifelong partner entrenched in a mental and physical disaster.

Maybe that would be enough of an incentive to get treatment. If not, then she cares more about continuing her disease process than she cares about you. Health Question & Answer

Yes, agree with the others. You do need to help her nip this in the bud, before it turns into full-blown anoxeria and starts affecting her health.

Here's a website that gives you some tips on how to approach it.

http://www.edreferral.com/helping_loved_...

Hope she resolves this soon. It must be very stressful for you having to watch it happen, but she can recover, so try to hold onto that thought for strength in the days ahead.

PS I worked with a guy once who had an eating disorder and was hospitalised at one point. His fiancee stood by him through it all, and he overcame the disease. They went on to get married and had a lovely little baby boy. Just to let you know it's possible :)Health Question & Answer

Well, im not a man, but I would confront her about it if I were you. Not only that, ASSURE her that she doesnt need to take such drastic measures for beauty because you find her beautiful as she is. Health Question & Answer

CONFRONT HER ask her WHY seriously she has issues and she must face her demons help her be there for her sort it Health Question & Answer

why not contact the eating disorder association for advice. They are known as Beat (www.b-eat.co.uk). Health Question & Answer



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