Sexual problems. ugh :[?!
Question: Sexual problems. ugh :[.?
Alright my boyfriend has tried asking this before but nobody responded to his question. There's a bit of detail involved. My boyfriend and I had been going out for about a year before we decided to have sex. We've done a lot of other things before. At first, (from the "other things") I would pretty much orgasm in no time at all (although I've never had an orgasm that really seemed amazing). Now, sometimes he can be doing things for a really long time to me and nothing will happen, and sometimes it will only take a few minutes.
I've tried to please him a million times. With my hands, my mouth, both, whatever. I've gone for like 2 hours. Nothing ever happens. He says it feels good but nothing happens. He can "help" it along but I just feel like if he does I was unsuccessful and it's depressing for me. He said it might work with lotion or if we have actual sex. Ok so I tried some lotion...nothing changed. Then when we decided to have sex (we were both virgins) we were going at it for like 2 hours and neither of us could get anywhere. We found out the condoms we were using were too small and making it difficult so he bought better ones and we tried again. 3 hours...STILL NOTHING! Aghhh WHY.?!! I thought guys were supposed to finish quickly the first time. After 1 1/2 years of relationship I have never been successful in getting him to finish all on my own.Health Question & Answer
I've tried to please him a million times. With my hands, my mouth, both, whatever. I've gone for like 2 hours. Nothing ever happens. He says it feels good but nothing happens. He can "help" it along but I just feel like if he does I was unsuccessful and it's depressing for me. He said it might work with lotion or if we have actual sex. Ok so I tried some lotion...nothing changed. Then when we decided to have sex (we were both virgins) we were going at it for like 2 hours and neither of us could get anywhere. We found out the condoms we were using were too small and making it difficult so he bought better ones and we tried again. 3 hours...STILL NOTHING! Aghhh WHY.?!! I thought guys were supposed to finish quickly the first time. After 1 1/2 years of relationship I have never been successful in getting him to finish all on my own.Health Question & Answer
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wow. that is unbelievable.
well what you can do is like have him see you naked, so he gets really turned on but don't touch him and don't let him do anything to himself either. ok.? then you want to stroke him a little just a little though. well you know what i am going to write you an email on this and you can give me the points later if you decide if the info i gave you helped. ok.?Health Question & Answer
well what you can do is like have him see you naked, so he gets really turned on but don't touch him and don't let him do anything to himself either. ok.? then you want to stroke him a little just a little though. well you know what i am going to write you an email on this and you can give me the points later if you decide if the info i gave you helped. ok.?Health Question & Answer
If he is taking any medications for depression that could be the problem. Some medications will do that, also you should focus on the head and upper shaft. Some people try and go all the way in and so on all the time and there is not a whole lot of stimulation like that. So when having sex tell him not to go as deep. With you, you need to make sure he is stimulating the clitoris or else you will not finish. Try those things and see if that helps. Health Question & Answer
Sounds like you both are trying too hard. You have to let it happen naturally. Another good way of getting him to the point of no return (so to speak) is rent an X or XX movie and start watching it together. It will get you both hot and just take it from there. My niece & her husband kept trying to have a baby and every month for 4 years she would cry because she never got pregnant. The Dr told her just quit trying so hard, forget trying to get pregnant and just enjoy being together. 2 months later she was pregnant. You may not think you are stressed when you two are together but from what I read here you are very stressed as is your bf. Get the movie, have the protection handy but just start watching the movie, I think you both will be surprised if you are not worrying about who gets to the finish line first. SLOW & EASY.Health Question & Answer
Go to an adult store. Get yourself one of those "silver bullets". Use this for clitoral stimulation during sex. This will help you reach orgasm. And if he's "normal" it should help him too. There is also a "penis ring" that comes with one of these bullets. The ring goes clear to the end (meaning towards the body end) and the other ring goes around his testicles, and theres a little spot for the bullet. If you both use these, it should help!Health Question & Answer