How can I explain to my husband...BEST ANSWER GETS 10 PTS!!?!


Question: How can I explain to my husband...BEST ANSWER GETS 10 PTS!!.?
My husband has been nagging me to quit smoking..... Not encouraging me. Every time he see me smoking he says something negative. I told him that if he showed concern when I was not smoking, it would be taking as concern and not criticism.

Anyway.... i have been trying to gradually cut back so I wouldn't get the withdraw symptoms that I normally get when I tried cold turkey. How can I make him understand that, even something so common as as cigarette can make behave like an A&& and it could be more harmful for my body to go through the withdrawals than to cut down. Not to mention our relationship. Health Question & Answer


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Tell him that you've cut back X number of smokes per day and that it would help if he acknowledged the positive side of you starting to stop instead of negative.

also tell him when he nags at you it makes you want a smoke, but if he reinforces your 'good behavior' with something small like a kiss it'll make you feel like you've accomplished something and the reward will stick with you.Health Question & Answer

it seems like you're trying to quit smoking for him. you should tell him this. and you should tell him that you need to be encouraged and you need help because what you are going through is difficult and you don't need to have smart *** remarks thrown at you. i went through this exact same thing and my husband could be a real *** too. i think you are going the right way with slowly easing out of it. it worked for me!

best of luckHealth Question & Answer

He will never understand an addiction. You compare it to something he is addicted to. Tell him to stop looking at porn cold turkey. If he says he does not look at porn he is lying. He stops porn you stop smoking. I ll bet you stop first.Health Question & Answer

Tell him you will quit when you are ready to quit, because that will be when you are successful.Health Question & Answer

He says something because he cares about you. If he didn't he wouldn't say a thing, he might not show it well but it is his way of saying he wants you to be healthy and with him as he gets older. In your heart you know he's right and your ego defenses are making you even more sensitive to his snide remarks.
If you think the side effects of quiting are more physically harmful than the smoking of the cigarette you are wrong, but you probably know that too. If you want to quite and don't have the willpower there is many ways to get help, but it seems you don't want to quite and are just looking for a way to get your husband to stop nagging you. There honesty is the best policy too. Tell him you enjoy smoking and don't want to stop, be honest about understanding he doesn't want to lose you, but his nagging is not helping you.
Smoking is a very hard thing to work out in a relationship, there is just a lot of emotion involved. I wish you the best in working it out. Health Question & Answer

Sorry honey, smoking is simply more harmful for your body than withdrawals. I agree, your husband is probably taking the wrong approach to helping you quit. Do you want to quit.? If you don't, then you need to explain to him that your habit and addiction has enslaved you and you have no intention of quitting. But, it sounds like you do want to. You may need help to quit. Maybe you should try gum or other nicotine substitute. There are receptors in the brain that get really upset when you stop feeding them their nitotene. Keep this in mind when you go off nicotene. Bottom line, if you really want to quit, you will. Health Question & Answer



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