How do I stop my boyfriend from smoking weed?!
Question: How do I stop my boyfriend from smoking weed.?
He doesn't do it all that often, maybe once a month now, he has cut down. But I don't want him to do it at all. I hate it and if he keeps doing it, then I really don't want to be with him anymore.
He says that he needs to relax every so often and wants the 'euphoria' of it, but he's 18. If he can't handle the little stress he has now, how's he going to handle it when he's older and paying bills and mortgages and all that.?
He doesn't care that it can damage your health, cause schizophrenia and all that. He says he doesn't do it much, so it won't happen to him.
How can I stop him doing it.?Health Question & Answer
He says that he needs to relax every so often and wants the 'euphoria' of it, but he's 18. If he can't handle the little stress he has now, how's he going to handle it when he's older and paying bills and mortgages and all that.?
He doesn't care that it can damage your health, cause schizophrenia and all that. He says he doesn't do it much, so it won't happen to him.
How can I stop him doing it.?Health Question & Answer
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ino u have probably already done this but sit down with him and tell him how you really feel and tell him that your scared about wha might happento him. even if you dont tell him to stop tell him to cut down its good that he has cut down but maybe cuttin down a little bit more might help. just tell him how u really feel and tell him this is the last time your going to say it.
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well dear u can not just make him cut it ,it is need time , know if he truly love you tell him to leave this bad thing for u ,therfor, leave him he dose not desear to love him
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You Should warn him about the relationship,and how its affecting you And him! x This should work,But if it dosent you should contact a health advisor,They can supply products that will help stop this.Health Question & Answer
You cont stop him and whoever told you pot can cause schizophrenia is a fuc.ken idoit I smoke weed everyday for the past 20 years it dont cause no health problems just makes you lazyHealth Question & Answer
Dob him in thru the anonymous call line - if he is caught it may force him to stop in preference facing the cops again Health Question & Answer
u cant stop someone doing something they like doing. best thing u can tell him is how u feel about it and if he respects ur wishes he will stop for uHealth Question & Answer
piss on his stash then dry it out
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give him more sex
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it worked for meHealth Question & Answer
There's a few different problems you seem to be having with it so I'll go with one at a time.
You seem a bit freaked out that your boyfriend wants to smoke weed to 'relax', which would be fair enough if it was all the time, but seeing as you said he only smokes once a month or so, it doesn't seem like he's at the point where he 'can't handle the stress'. Weed is relaxing both chemically and socially, so he probably means that he enjoys that part of it, rather than feel he needs it.
also, while it is nice of you to be worried about his health, health decisions are really ones you can only make yourself, once you are aware of the facts and the risks, which he seems to be. There is a lot of hype about weed causing schizophrenia, but from my personal experience and all the reliable sources I have come across, it seems that the truth is that this is incredibly uncommon. I know at least 20 people who smoke weed regularly (over 3 times a week) and several of them have been doing this for many years. Only one person I know has ever had a mental problem which may have been caused by it, but it was something much more psychological than mental and was to do with him using the weed to deal with unresolved issues, which would f**k anyone up. The issue was easily and privately resolved, and the guy still smokes and is fine. So I really wouldn't worry about that.
The main problem is really that your boyfriend is doing something that you don't want him to do. He seems to have been respectful enough about it, ie he doesn't do it very often and has given you sensible reasons why he wants to. Under these conditions it is NOT fair for you to try to find a way to MAKE him stop. If you can make your boyfriend do something he doesn't want to, then you don't have a good relationship.
The guy has shown you respect and given you good reasons why he wants to do this. It is now your decision as to whether you accept those reasons, or to let him know that you cannot accept them to the point where you are willing to let him go over it. He has been reasonable with you love, and now it is your problem, not his.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
You seem a bit freaked out that your boyfriend wants to smoke weed to 'relax', which would be fair enough if it was all the time, but seeing as you said he only smokes once a month or so, it doesn't seem like he's at the point where he 'can't handle the stress'. Weed is relaxing both chemically and socially, so he probably means that he enjoys that part of it, rather than feel he needs it.
also, while it is nice of you to be worried about his health, health decisions are really ones you can only make yourself, once you are aware of the facts and the risks, which he seems to be. There is a lot of hype about weed causing schizophrenia, but from my personal experience and all the reliable sources I have come across, it seems that the truth is that this is incredibly uncommon. I know at least 20 people who smoke weed regularly (over 3 times a week) and several of them have been doing this for many years. Only one person I know has ever had a mental problem which may have been caused by it, but it was something much more psychological than mental and was to do with him using the weed to deal with unresolved issues, which would f**k anyone up. The issue was easily and privately resolved, and the guy still smokes and is fine. So I really wouldn't worry about that.
The main problem is really that your boyfriend is doing something that you don't want him to do. He seems to have been respectful enough about it, ie he doesn't do it very often and has given you sensible reasons why he wants to. Under these conditions it is NOT fair for you to try to find a way to MAKE him stop. If you can make your boyfriend do something he doesn't want to, then you don't have a good relationship.
The guy has shown you respect and given you good reasons why he wants to do this. It is now your decision as to whether you accept those reasons, or to let him know that you cannot accept them to the point where you are willing to let him go over it. He has been reasonable with you love, and now it is your problem, not his.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
first things first it is non addictive as a substance in itself.
but it carries certain drug culture related feelings of nostalgia.
your best bet is too love him as much as you can reinforcing the positive behavior and telling him in no uncertain terms that you cant allow yourself to be his enabler.
I dont mean to ask you to do anything sexual that you would not do otherwise, but it might be a good idea to entice him away from it with the promise of something better. or to make a pointy of telling him what he will be missing if he chooses the drug instead of you.
However while he is in this transitional state, dont make him feel bad, because it is exactly those negative feelings of abandonment and judgmentalism that cause a person to seek the comfort of drugs in the first place
it is absolutely love and encouragement that he needs with no judging. just compassion.Health Question & Answer
but it carries certain drug culture related feelings of nostalgia.
your best bet is too love him as much as you can reinforcing the positive behavior and telling him in no uncertain terms that you cant allow yourself to be his enabler.
I dont mean to ask you to do anything sexual that you would not do otherwise, but it might be a good idea to entice him away from it with the promise of something better. or to make a pointy of telling him what he will be missing if he chooses the drug instead of you.
However while he is in this transitional state, dont make him feel bad, because it is exactly those negative feelings of abandonment and judgmentalism that cause a person to seek the comfort of drugs in the first place
it is absolutely love and encouragement that he needs with no judging. just compassion.Health Question & Answer
Let me tell you something, if you think weed causes schizophrenia you need to come up here from "down under!" My brother has "paranoid schizophrenia", and he did many drugs in his lifetime including acid.Scientific evidence has concluded schizophrenia is inherited. There are some things that can trigger it, like trauma or severe stress. However, that only may cause one who is schizophrenic to start showing the first signs of it. Or, that is when it may first be diagnosed. It is usually diagnosed in ones late teens to early 20's. After that, if you don't have it is extremely rare, if not impossible to become schizophrenic. Weed has nothing to do with this. I do not personally like the way weed makes me feel. But, I know many people who smoke it, and and actually it relaxes them after a hard day at work or whatever. I find nothing wrong with this. As long as he is progressing in life. Everyone has different ways of relaxing. Just because his way in not your way, then, maybe you should get on the highway. (like I said, from down under,it could be much worse.) HEROIN ETC........................................Health Question & Answer
You cant make him stop. people with addictive behavior can not be told to do it , And if you give him an ultimatum and he quits, he did not do it for himself, he did it for you. When he gets stressed with you he will go back to smoking. Or he will do it behind you back.
My best advice is to leave and if he completes a drug theropy program, not some "i'llgo to meetings and get help" type stuf. but real drug theropy. but NOT FOR YOU. you really need to leave , find a supportive friend to cry with and wash him out of you hair. You have a good head on your shoulders, he will spoil you hopes for a hapy relationship with billls and mortgages and car payments. The day will come when one of them will be late because you came up short on cash and what choice will he make.? `If I were him I would smoke it up because I do not have the money for the bills. I did that once in my life and it happens every time.
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My best advice is to leave and if he completes a drug theropy program, not some "i'llgo to meetings and get help" type stuf. but real drug theropy. but NOT FOR YOU. you really need to leave , find a supportive friend to cry with and wash him out of you hair. You have a good head on your shoulders, he will spoil you hopes for a hapy relationship with billls and mortgages and car payments. The day will come when one of them will be late because you came up short on cash and what choice will he make.? `If I were him I would smoke it up because I do not have the money for the bills. I did that once in my life and it happens every time.
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