Am 13 and i ..........???????? ?!


Question: Am 13 and i ...........?.?.?.?.?.?.?.? .?
okay this is sorta dumb but here i go last night around 11 something my mom came into my room and told me she was going to bed and asked me if i wanted her to sleep in my bed or in my dad's bed and i go " go ahead and sleep in dad's bed" and she goes " are you sure.?" and i go " yeah " so she leaves

and i lay in my bed and tried to go to sleep and about after 20 minutes i was not to sleep yet and then that made me mad and i sit up in my bed and started crying i mean cry crying buckets and after about 30 minutes i stopped crying and tried to get to sleep and about 30 later i was asleep

so why do i get so sad when my mom leaves my room and goes to sleep.? i have slept by myself for a long time but lately it's like i hate going to sleep alone

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Some people (two people specifically) had posted utterly unnecessary answers in this thread, and I've reported them for you. I disagree with the way a lot of people answered your question, and I know it's hard not to worry about other people who act like jerks sometimes. (You're probably in middle school or high school now, so I'm sure you understand all about that.) They just don't deserve the time it takes for you to find answers to a very personal and important question.

How does it feel.? To feel like this. You certainly don't have to tell any of us, but sometimes feeling so bad makes it hard to understand just how you're feeling or why you're feeling that way.

It's so cliche & stupid. I hated when people said stuff like this to me when I was 13-- and I mean I *hated* it. But a lot of this may well be you and your body growing up. Let me tell you, that process can really suck. I think most people who have gone through it would agree. And when people say that to you, I don't think any respectful person means to make it seem like what you're going through isn't incredibly difficult. Strange things like this happen as puberty starts happening, especially. They seem to come out of nowhere. Sometimes they stick around, and sometimes they don't. But in any case, it's not unusual for it to be very hard to deal with.

Have you talked to your mom about this.? I think it might be really helpful to you to sit down & have an open & honest conversation with her, even if it makes you want to cry. It might seem embarrassing or even impossible, but difficult situations like this are really what parents are there for. Your mom might have gone through something similar. I am always surprised by how many of the things my mom says she went through when she was younger and how many of those things I have gone through, too. I never really thought that was possible, but I know I didn't realize that sometimes, even when people are acting very differently, they might feel very much the same way. And having the open conversations with your mom will make the rest of growing up a LOT easier. It seems so hard, but I will tell you this: I never really developed that relationship with either of my parents, and I wish I had. I hope you have the opportunity to talk with them. They can really relate when things are looking bad.

also, I think it's necessary for me to say that just because a person goes to therapy does not make them a total nut job. There are *many* people who go to therapy or counseling because they feel like they need guidance or someone to talk to (other than their parents or friends-- someone outside of the situation).

I hope this has helped a little, and if it didn't, I'm sorry that I didn't do better. I hope this all works out. :)Health Question & Answer

Well, being 13 is hard. Really. You are going through alot of changes - the biggest being the fact that you are starting to become more of an adult, therefore independent from your parents. So it sounds like you are just having a tough time adjusting to all the changes that are going on in your life - which is completely fine.

Maybe it could help to set aside some "Mom and Me" time before bed.? Maybe you can snuggle together on the couch and watch tv, etc.? Or just have her sit on your bed until you fall asleep.? Health Question & Answer

Hmm......I think it's most likely that you are getting your period if you haven't gotten it yet. Girls get really emotional during that time of month. If you've already started your period, I think it's probably just something psychological. Maybe you should talk to a trustworthy friend or a school counselor.Health Question & Answer

I think you should ask your mom nicely to please not ask that question any more. I would tell her that you are a teenager now and prefer to sleep alone. Maybe it makes you feel guilty to tell her no.? Don't know--but good luck with this! My cat snuggles with me at night--do you have any pets.? If not, try a teddy bear--no joke. When I broke up with my boyfriend, it made me feel better, though we weren't sleeping together. 13 is a rough age--it gets better. Hang in there!Health Question & Answer

it's probably hormones since you're a teenager.. everyone is different and handles things their own way..

honestly, if you're still like this in a couple of months, i would really go to a doctor.. something might be bothering you from when you were younger and you can't really remember it now.. good luckHealth Question & Answer

it's called growing up you are at that age of becoming a person who should no longer be sleeping with Mom. And soon it will be moving out to sleep with a total stranger who isn't mom.It makes me cry buckets to.So grow up and face reality And go back to sleep.. Health Question & Answer

i agree with the person about the period thing.

i do that ALL the time, like I get SUPER emotional before my period and I can be reading a book and laughing, and then the next second I start crying....
baha. dont worry, its normal ;)

for girls atleast :)Health Question & Answer

has your mom been leaving a lot lately maybe you head(deep deep down) you really miss her and she isn't spending enough time with you and it finally broke out into tears
Or maybe you are just acting weird because Your having your period

since I didn't answer rudely please answer : D

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THANXSHealth Question & Answer

You're just transitioning from being a child to a young adult. Everyone reacts in different ways. Its ok that you cry, you'll get over it. This is just a learning process for you. Health Question & Answer

It is just a phase. It might help to remember that your mom is right in the room next to you, and if you need her she will be there!Health Question & Answer

wow!
i think you should see a psychologist
there is something obviously wrong and you can't grasp it!
its not normal to be sleeping with your mom at the age of 13.

good luckHealth Question & Answer

I think your being emotional and if it continues you should seek counseling.Health Question & Answer

Peculiar, probably just a bit lonely, you'll be fine.Health Question & Answer

Therapy, now.Health Question & Answer

lawl. your mom just wants to bang your dad, get over it XDHealth Question & Answer

Ummmmmmm...... maybe hormones.? or ur insecureHealth Question & Answer



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