How do i learn to have more self respect?!


Question: How do i learn to have more self respect.?
ok i brought home this guy again from the bar..he makes me laugh and i do have fun playing pool with him..but he's 38 and im 23 and last night i brought him to my house for the 2nd time and umm..i didn't have sex with him but i let him *sighs* lets just say i let him shove a "foreign object" in my a$$..i have had a lot of anal sex with my ex-boyfriend so this isn't all that new..i've just never let anyone else use something else to put up there....anyway i started bleeding very badly and im very sore right now...do you think i could get a hemorrhoid.?.? i feel terrible and dirty..and i don't really know him well enough to be doing those things with him and let alone in my house...he lives in his friends backyard in a tent..*sighs* i don't know what i've been doing..i've been trying to get over my ex boyfriend whom i was with for 5 years and he really messed up my head...BAD i could go on forever about all the things i went through...i guess im so desperate to move on that im doing it in all the wrong ways ..but i don't really know exactly what my question is.?..i guess ..umm.. how do i obtain more self respect for myself..how do i get self respect..im a good person im just ...i just think & do the things i shouldn't and don't think & do the things i should...
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in respect to the bleeding, i think you should get it checked out. if you're embarrassed - go to planned parenthood and have them check it out, they are great and nobody will judge you there.

with respect to gaining more self respect, you have taken the first step by realizing that is something you want. what else do you want.? sit down and think about that seriously. it sounds like you spent 5 years in a relationship that was hard on you and i'm so sorry to hear that. now you are out of that relationship and it sounds like you need to heal. based on what you've written it seems like you don't want a relationship like you had with your ex-boyfriend, so what kind of relationship do you want.? what else do you want from your life.? what kinds of things do you enjoy doing for fun.? what makes you...you.? you stated that you're a good person...what makes you a good person.? be proud of those things, write them down, even say them out loud.

it sounds like you don't want to be with a 38 year old and don't want foreign objects shoved anally. if you do or if you don't, either way is fine, it just depends on what you want. the most important thing is determining your wants and desires and performing them safely. you deserve to be in a relationship where you are comfortable and feel safe and cherished.

remember that you are a 23 year old woman. you are in control of your life. you may not feel like it right now. but you are. it's so hard to say no when you are hurting and want to bury the pain, but you are in control of your life and if you know what makes you feel bad, you can control your actions and therefore can control the outcome which, in this case, sounds like it is feeling bad about foreign objects being shoved anally. there isn't much more of a powerful feeling than taking control of your own life.

it's a long process, it's really helpful to have a counselor or therapist to help you through this and help you ask yourself the right questions. there is nothing wrong with it - everyone can benefit from therapy. it's a long journey but it's worth it.

sorry for the long response, but good luck!Health Question & Answer

You should start by tightening up your relationship with your family. Share your thoughts with your close friends as sometimes family can be hard to do so.

Another way is to respect yourself more. How do you do that.? You treat your body like a temple..Don't abuse your body anymore. Start looking after your health now and you should start showing respect to yourself.Health Question & Answer

hun go to a doctor first and make sure everything is straight and then tell your ex how you feel and thrid go back to normal sex its better and its a less chance of getting aids Health Question & Answer

Oh dear, dear, dear. You must learn to like yourself and not go out doing stuff like this with strangers.Health Question & Answer

You need to start thinking possitively,
you cant move on untill you face what is making you act this way.

Prehaps try talking to someone in your family or a close friend about how your feeling... it always helps to get things out in the open

if not you could always try counsilling, just to get your mind into a more possive way of thinking, that way you will have more respect fro your self.

Good luck (:Health Question & Answer



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