My family deliberately harrass me?!
Question: My family deliberately harrass me.?
My mum and dad always seem to be in my space. They drive me crazy. I most want my space at this time of the month. I sit outside in the garden trying to do meditation to feel better, and my mum always turns up, to interrupt me and do washing. Then when I so much as go inside to get something she's on my case and humiliated me by forcing me to take out my personal stuff, in front of dad, who was in the garden, which was embarrassing, she did it in such an accusing tone, that I had no choice but to try and dodge being seen by my father, then, the next time I came inside, she threatened to throw a dish mop at me in an aggressive way just for saying something really small and harmless, and to incite me even further my dad suddenly came in and started accusing me of behaving madly, which was completely untrue. I couldn't believe it, I already felt my personal boundaries had been humiliated at a sensitive time of the month. It was like the minute I came in that door, I was going to get it. What is going on here.? It's like all my mum cares about is invading my personal space and telling me what to do. I feel like I can't go near them. Then later I made a joke about them being mad because I'd had just about enough of them, and to get relief from the situation, and my mum called me stupid, which hurt far more.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
It sounds as though you are extra sensitive and may be responding in a more confrontational manner to your mother's need to bother you. Your mom should definately respect your privacy and should not have exposed those things in front of your father. You have every right to feel angry. Your mother was wrong to call you stupid. It may be that your mom feels a loss of control as you are getting older and feels that because you are naturally growing and asserting yourself more, she has to put her foot down more, in order to gain back the control she feels is slipping away. I don't know how your mother normally treats you, and whether she is kind and loving or not. If she is normally a good mom, I would try sitting down and expressing these feelings with her. Tell her that you don't mean to be rude and upset her, but you think that you should have some privacy. Explain to her that you feel this way especially around your time of the month. Communication can help in most normal cases. On the other hand, if your mom is controlling and verbally abusive all the time, it might help if you spoke to someone outside the home to get assistance with these issues.
Good luck! I hope you can find the help you are seeking! :)Health Question & Answer
Good luck! I hope you can find the help you are seeking! :)Health Question & Answer
I would recommend talking to a trusted adult female friend if you have one if you don't have another trusted adult female family member to talk to. Please let them know what's going on because of the concern you have.Health Question & Answer