I've been smoking for a while now and my bf tries to stop me, whay should I do?!
Question: I've been smoking for a while now and my bf tries to stop me, whay should I do.?
Ok, so me and my bf have been dating for a little over 3 years now. He's very controlling and sometimes he's mean (but that's not the point of this question.)
I've been smoking, even before we got together. Then I ended up trying to quit for a little while and then I started back up. I didnt' want to tell him when I started again because I didn't know how he would react. Well he found out and snapped out. He told me that I'm not to be smoking ever again and that if he ever found out I was smoking I was going to hear from him.
Of course, I'm still smoking, I can't quit and really I don't want to quit. It's my body, I know what's going to happen.
Does he have any right to tell me what to do.? He always searches my car and stuff (not lately but he has before) looking for cigarettes and then he'll find them and break them all in half, like a new box or something. And I bought them, I don't appreciate it. Wht should I do.? I'm 19Health Question & Answer
I've been smoking, even before we got together. Then I ended up trying to quit for a little while and then I started back up. I didnt' want to tell him when I started again because I didn't know how he would react. Well he found out and snapped out. He told me that I'm not to be smoking ever again and that if he ever found out I was smoking I was going to hear from him.
Of course, I'm still smoking, I can't quit and really I don't want to quit. It's my body, I know what's going to happen.
Does he have any right to tell me what to do.? He always searches my car and stuff (not lately but he has before) looking for cigarettes and then he'll find them and break them all in half, like a new box or something. And I bought them, I don't appreciate it. Wht should I do.? I'm 19Health Question & Answer
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okay..i feel like this is me!! im going through this wit my b/f now..he HATES the thought of me smoking never mind jus smoking..he searches and searches for them and when he finds them (which i try 2 hide so good) he breaks them 2...i get sooo mad cuz 1st there not cheap ( $8 in Mass) and 2nd its MY BODY! so i know how u feel..but i did say something 2 him..and he might not be mean like u say ur b/f is..but just try sitting him down and sayin that u will not smoke in front of him and make sure u dont smell of it either..tell him "its somethin u cant quit in a day and if it was, u would of stopped by now..i kno smoking's bad but i will do my best to stop for u" i did this and it worked a lil..he still gives me the eye when i see him..making sure i dont smell..but honestly hun..dont let a guy ever tell u what 2do wit ur body or nethin else..i learned this the hard way with ex b/f's.. im not sayin smoking is good and u shouldnt quit BUT i am sayin u do what u want and how u want it and when YOU are ready, u should break ur OWN cigarrettes and quit..good luck hun, xoxoHealth Question & Answer
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Well, I think your boyfriend is extremely smart to realize how hazardous smoking can be for your health, and he just cares about you. Maybe you should take his advice and try to quit smoking. Smoking is horrible for your health and is a really disgusting habit. He probably doesn't like to kiss you when you reek of cigarettes.Health Question & Answer
My dear...
dump him as fast as now! He is trying to rule your life and if he is reacting like this over cigarettes, how would he react on something more cerious.? You don't need a man that is trying to over power you.
Good luck!Health Question & Answer
dump him as fast as now! He is trying to rule your life and if he is reacting like this over cigarettes, how would he react on something more cerious.? You don't need a man that is trying to over power you.
Good luck!Health Question & Answer
Stop smoking.
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He just cares about your health.You shouldnt be smoking it is HORRIBLE for you.Health Question & Answer
It sounds like he's just crazy jealous, and he cares about you...
but I definitely see that's it's gotten out of control.
It's up to you whether you smoke or not, and if it's something that you're not willing to change about yourself, then it's time to cut your losses and find a new boyfriend!
All that said...I quit smoking for my last bf, and a few months later he proposed..... O.oHealth Question & Answer
but I definitely see that's it's gotten out of control.
It's up to you whether you smoke or not, and if it's something that you're not willing to change about yourself, then it's time to cut your losses and find a new boyfriend!
All that said...I quit smoking for my last bf, and a few months later he proposed..... O.oHealth Question & Answer
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" I can't quit and really I don't want to quit"
You have just stated the hallmark of addiction.
Don't let your anger at yourself (I know it is just below the conscious level) allow you to accuse him or anyone else.
I would calmly explain to him how you feel abut his "encroachment" and ask him to HELP you quit, without judging you or playing "tricks" and and "snooping" on you.
You have heard it all before, but I feel a need to tell you that you are damaging your body; at your age, you CAN quit: I pray something or someone convinces youto do it even if you have to be placed in an induced coma.
Truthfully, the longer you smoke, the harder it will be to become free.Health Question & Answer
You have just stated the hallmark of addiction.
Don't let your anger at yourself (I know it is just below the conscious level) allow you to accuse him or anyone else.
I would calmly explain to him how you feel abut his "encroachment" and ask him to HELP you quit, without judging you or playing "tricks" and and "snooping" on you.
You have heard it all before, but I feel a need to tell you that you are damaging your body; at your age, you CAN quit: I pray something or someone convinces youto do it even if you have to be placed in an induced coma.
Truthfully, the longer you smoke, the harder it will be to become free.Health Question & Answer
I quit 3 times in past 2 years. I now cough a great deal and can't walk and hike like I used to. I have smoked for over fifty years, but so help me, God, I will quit this time - even if I have to be sedated. Taget date is April 15. If you are willing to be my "quit buddy", plase email me.Health Question & Answer
RUN from this guy. He's controlling, you can't hang out with your friends, he's mean, he has a double standard (he can dip, but you can't smoke) and you want to smoke. For some people smoking is a deal breaker.
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F him! You're fully aware of your choices. tell him you don't like dipping and don't appreciate it when he has a mouth full of dip. I'd even go so far as to search his own truck and each can of dip you have, dump it on the ground and grind it in! That's WAY too controlling and WAY too scary to be doing that to someone. If you let him start here, he's going to take this control a mile further. I would tell him that if he just can't stand you smoking, that you smoked before you met him, and you'll continue to do it long after he's gone so it's his choice to either walk away or shut the heck up.Health Question & Answer
tell him to piss off. its your body, your of age. smoke if you want dude! ill even send you a tshirt i have that says i smoke so **** off that you can even wear around him. no ok seriously, you were smoking before you met him. if he loves you then he should love everything that came with you when you guys started dating. well he doesnt have to love it, but he should put op with it. i feel the same way you do. ive been with my fiance for 6 years. she HATES the fact that i smoke. absolutely hates it. well fight about it every now and then but she knows thats who i am. i will stop one dya. i really dont want my children picking up the habit...so ill stop...hopefully. haha. but i know what you mean im not ready to quit yet either. i enjoy it. he needs to realize this is who you are and he needs to get the fcuk over it. arghh...im irritated, he is totally one of those people that fake coughs or holds his nose as hes walking past someone thats smoking and then makes a rude comment about the person smoking isnt he.? well anyways, that was my rant on smoking for the day. hope it helps. good luck.
and for the rest who are telling this person to stop smoking piss off too. i understand the health thing and the smell of it, but the people who reply to this have no right to tell this girl to quit smoking just like that unless you yourself have quit. for those of you who never smoked before and just hate the smell of it cna **** off..you non smokers have absolutely no idea. for those of you who do disregard this last part. kicking cocaine was easier than cigarettes.Health Question & Answer
and for the rest who are telling this person to stop smoking piss off too. i understand the health thing and the smell of it, but the people who reply to this have no right to tell this girl to quit smoking just like that unless you yourself have quit. for those of you who never smoked before and just hate the smell of it cna **** off..you non smokers have absolutely no idea. for those of you who do disregard this last part. kicking cocaine was easier than cigarettes.Health Question & Answer
I don't think I would have married my husband if he'd been a smoker, despite how much I love him.
Although smoking most directly harms your body, he has to smell it on your breath, in your hair, etc. Even standing next to a heavy smoker makes my eyes start to water.
If you're really not willing to stop then you need to tell him that he has to leave you alone about it or break up with you.
EDIT: If he's that controlling in other areas of your life, then you need to get away from him. Relationships need to be built on trust, not control and manipulation.Health Question & Answer
Although smoking most directly harms your body, he has to smell it on your breath, in your hair, etc. Even standing next to a heavy smoker makes my eyes start to water.
If you're really not willing to stop then you need to tell him that he has to leave you alone about it or break up with you.
EDIT: If he's that controlling in other areas of your life, then you need to get away from him. Relationships need to be built on trust, not control and manipulation.Health Question & Answer
You are right its your body and if you know the side effects and still choose to smoke that is your right. If he cares for you he wouldn't fuss at you all the time he would try to help you stop other ways like trying to occupy your time (how I quit) so you wouldn't won't one as much. Because quitting is so hard he needs to support you when you decide to but unless you decide to stop for good you won't be able to. With that if he is that controlling he may won't to seek help, its not healthy for you or for the relationship.
If it bothered him he would have never started dating you because he would have smelled it. So he isn't doing it for that reason.Health Question & Answer
If it bothered him he would have never started dating you because he would have smelled it. So he isn't doing it for that reason.Health Question & Answer