Awkward Question about sex and orgasms! <<<please help>>>> NO STUPID gross answers!?!
Question: Awkward Question about sex and orgasms! <<<please help>>>> NO STUPID gross answers!.?
Okay, I've been dating someone off and on for 5 years, and in that whole time I've NEVER had an orgasm! The last time we got in a fight I yelled it out because I thought we were done and I was pissed, but that's not the point.............. NOW he's trying harder then ever, to the point where I am losing interest and stressing him out and making him feel bad........ (it's not just him it's any guy) I JUST CAN'T with a guy but I can to myself (awkward, but it's the truth......and it's starting to stress me out and him............so I have a few questions..
#1.. Is this normal,does it happen to a lot of people.?
#2.. Is there anything I can do to fix this or take.?
Any other helpful advice would be great!Health Question & Answer
#1.. Is this normal,does it happen to a lot of people.?
#2.. Is there anything I can do to fix this or take.?
Any other helpful advice would be great!Health Question & Answer
Answers:
it's easier to make yourself *** because you know exactly what you like, if you can *** by yourself at least you KNOW that it is possible for you to orgasm..
the thing with most men is that it doesn't take a lot to turn them on and they can usually orgasm pretty easily/quickly.. with most women, they need to be in the right mood, with the right person, have had the right amount of build up, foreplay etc etc etc
if you do all those things and are really turned on before you actually have sex, it will be more likely that you will ***.. i think a mistake a lot of men make, is that they can just 'push the button' and job done..
if your boyfriend is really desperate to make you orgasm then you could try few things..
for about a week or so try not to have sex with him, sorry if this is too much information but try to get to the stage where you are really wanting him..
when you come to actually have sex, spend A LOT of time getting worked up, just kissing and touching each other even with your clothes on.. don't kiss each other for 2 minutes then strip and have sex cos that won't work lol
you have to have a lot of build up, then when he comes to actually touching you tell him and show him exactly what you want and like.. don't be embarrassed or awkward about telling him if he's doing it wrong.. make noises to show him that he's doing something right, don't order him about like a drill seargant but be obvious if it feels nice and use your hand to guide him to the right places..
positions like missionary and the chair are supposed to be the most effective for bringing the woman to orgasm so try those!
sorry for the essay, hope some of this is at least a little bit helpful..
don't worry if this doesn't help and you still can't orgasm with him, there are more women out there than you realise that can't actually orgasm during sex at all.. Health Question & Answer
the thing with most men is that it doesn't take a lot to turn them on and they can usually orgasm pretty easily/quickly.. with most women, they need to be in the right mood, with the right person, have had the right amount of build up, foreplay etc etc etc
if you do all those things and are really turned on before you actually have sex, it will be more likely that you will ***.. i think a mistake a lot of men make, is that they can just 'push the button' and job done..
if your boyfriend is really desperate to make you orgasm then you could try few things..
for about a week or so try not to have sex with him, sorry if this is too much information but try to get to the stage where you are really wanting him..
when you come to actually have sex, spend A LOT of time getting worked up, just kissing and touching each other even with your clothes on.. don't kiss each other for 2 minutes then strip and have sex cos that won't work lol
you have to have a lot of build up, then when he comes to actually touching you tell him and show him exactly what you want and like.. don't be embarrassed or awkward about telling him if he's doing it wrong.. make noises to show him that he's doing something right, don't order him about like a drill seargant but be obvious if it feels nice and use your hand to guide him to the right places..
positions like missionary and the chair are supposed to be the most effective for bringing the woman to orgasm so try those!
sorry for the essay, hope some of this is at least a little bit helpful..
don't worry if this doesn't help and you still can't orgasm with him, there are more women out there than you realise that can't actually orgasm during sex at all.. Health Question & Answer
I know exactly what you mean I have never been able to either except for when I pleasure myself.. At first I thought it was because of my boyfriend and then when we broke uup and I had sex with someone else it was more pleasurable but still no orgasm so if you find out any tricks or techniques please let me know..Health Question & Answer
ok i have a sorta simular prob,
i can orgasm at all at the moment altho in the past i could.. i think after my preg it has just stopped and as much as i try i can with my fella yet by myself i can.. last nite we watch a progarm and it was alil porny and we then had sex and i nearly did.. i'm not sure what to sugest but if u find out let me knowHealth Question & Answer
i can orgasm at all at the moment altho in the past i could.. i think after my preg it has just stopped and as much as i try i can with my fella yet by myself i can.. last nite we watch a progarm and it was alil porny and we then had sex and i nearly did.. i'm not sure what to sugest but if u find out let me knowHealth Question & Answer
try to watch porn first and have pleasure........lol......Health Question & Answer
1 - when you are trying too hard and don't have good chemistry, it could happen to anyone
2 - you don't need fixing or drugs.. You need to relax, and find someone who makes your toes curl and your eyes roll back in your head.. That level of excitement actually starts in YOUR head - and you would need to be relaxed and totally into it.. If there are things about him you don't like or if you find him boring or not a good fit in the bedroom, you won't have fun and neither will he..
Let this guy off the hook, cause it prolly wasn't meant to be......Health Question & Answer
2 - you don't need fixing or drugs.. You need to relax, and find someone who makes your toes curl and your eyes roll back in your head.. That level of excitement actually starts in YOUR head - and you would need to be relaxed and totally into it.. If there are things about him you don't like or if you find him boring or not a good fit in the bedroom, you won't have fun and neither will he..
Let this guy off the hook, cause it prolly wasn't meant to be......Health Question & Answer