Talking to my OBGYN with parent?!
Question: Talking to my OBGYN with parent.?
ok, when i go to the obgyn my mom always goes with and she goes back with me and she said she would stay back there if he was going to do any exams. last time i went i went for birth control because i think i might have PMDD, but idk. anyway he asked me if i was sexually active, and other stuff like that. i told the truth, but now its time for me to go back and some info has changed. i want to tell the doctor the truth but i dont want my mom to know. and shes gonna know something is up if i ask her not to go back with me. and im scared that he will make me have an exam, and i have a fear of docs in general....any advice.?
p.s. i would tell my mom but i can never tell her anything, she is always yelling at me for no reason. we arent close at all. and she wouldnt take the time to listen.Health Question & Answer
p.s. i would tell my mom but i can never tell her anything, she is always yelling at me for no reason. we arent close at all. and she wouldnt take the time to listen.Health Question & Answer
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ok first of all for something very private as that your mother should not be in the room now!!...and like others have said...it is the LAW that no doctor when doing a gyn exam can be alone in the room whether the MD is a male or female.....it protects both of you from any "he did she did" problems.....and if this doctor DOES NOT ask for an assistant it is against the law and you will need to remind them that the exam can not go further until his/or assistant is present...and don't be afraid to speak up...it is your body and the law!!! now about your mother...I am sorry she is that way...perhaps her mother was to her.?..sometimes people can't break the cycle of being like someone else that may have been that way.....now you knowing this can move on someday to be the best damn mother in the world!! because you know how it feels...and again I am sorry.....talk to your guidance counselor or teacher or a favorite relative ( I know you didnt ask about that but I had to say it!)...anyway what you can do i simply when you get some free time and privacy is call the Doctors office yourself!!!...while you won't get the doctor what you need to do is ask for the nurse...she or he is the Doctors messenger and you can tell them anything...they are quite used to it.....you can explain how you feel about your mother being in the room and ask if they could handle it in a confidential delicate manner.....I mean the Doc can say.."You know what Mrs. Whoever....your daughter has been here now a couple of times or whatever and now I am going to bring in my assistant for future visits so please feel free to wait in the waiting room"...that's it...you can even suggest this to the nurse that way....ok and about being fingered....just tell the nurse that since the last time you have been involved with someone and you have been involved in petting and you didnt know if that made a difference but you wanted the Dr to know in case it did ....(it really doesn't though and I would hope if t he Doc saw something he/she had the sense to keep his/her mouth shut with your mother there!....I am actually surprised he/she hasn't said to your mother to leave by now.?! you didn't mention your age but that still shouldn't matter its no longer your first time!...and believe me even though we all may feel embarassed we are like the umpteenth body they have seen!!...my doc teased me saying "no I know you are important and you are very special but you have the same stuff we all do so reallyou you're not that special"..and she laughed....doctors are there to help you not hurt you....so try not to be afraid of them....it is the Doctor who won't listen to you or doesn't make you feel better that you should ask questions or look elsewhere....this is your body no one else owns you....protect it and keep it healthy...that is why doctors exist...would you rather ignore something that could possbly be fixed or cured.?.. and end up possinly dying because you did nothing...or just bit the bullet get it over with...get it fixed and live a long life.?.?!! I'd take # 2!!....good luck and speak up ( you can speak up and still be polite about it you'll get more respect!!)..Health Question & Answer
He won't assume you've had sex, if that is really what you are concerned about. also, he won't tell your mom because of patient-doctor confidentiality.
I'd just tell her you feel really uncomfortable with her there since you're getting older. Tell her you'll ask for a nurse in the room (very common) but that you feel weird with her there as well. If she throws a fit, tell the doctor when you two enter into the room that you don't want her there...and the doctor will be required to make her leave.
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I'd just tell her you feel really uncomfortable with her there since you're getting older. Tell her you'll ask for a nurse in the room (very common) but that you feel weird with her there as well. If she throws a fit, tell the doctor when you two enter into the room that you don't want her there...and the doctor will be required to make her leave.
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k tell him before your mom gets there go to the front office lady and tell her you need to speak with the doc before you and your mom go back that way you are alone and if that's not a possibility when you get in the room go to the bathroom and talk to your doctor or the nurse then and tell them you don't want your mom to know and you should be fine..Health Question & Answer
i would just tell her that you would prefer that she stays out in the waiting room. i would tell her in front of the doctor because she is less likely to scream and get mad. or tell someone else and have them tell her. good luckHealth Question & Answer