My eleven yr old started her periods and didn't tell me ?!

I never had that sort of communication with my mother either and at the age of 12 once I startedmy period the last thing I wanted to do was tell her.
Of course she found out once she started having always go missing :o)

You need to take her to the shop maybe boots and show her all the different types of towels and tampons you can get!
Show her the very small descrete towels.... there really are so many she can choose from.

I guess once you have shown her these she may change her mind about it. And of course explain to her that people are more likely to see a load of blood through her trousers!

also reasure that this is normal and every young lady starts this at some point!

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Just show her how thin sanitary towels are, try buying 'Always silk' they are very thin and soft, and just explain to her they are not visible from outside clothing. Give her a demonstration. You could also explain to her that it would be far better if she used them rather then risk leaking through to her clothing.

I suspect it's because she doesn't want to admit to herself that she has actually started her periods and by not using sanitary protection she can still pretend she hasn't. She's only 11 remember. The mean age for girls to start their period is 12yrs.11months, so it maybe a case that she is ahead of her school mates and feels different/isolated. If she really can't bear them, then try tampons. Might not be so easy to use in one so young however. Some do though.Health Question & Answer

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ok well tell her that tissue paper can leak very easily and that if you get ultra thin pads you can even see them even if you are wearing a leotard but any way what about tampons.? i used them from my second period and they are heaps good also look for puberty websites and books i read one called puberty girl and it said that pads are not visible and no one knows your on your periods unless you tell them
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Hi Pamela my daughter is 11 and is just starting to show the signs of getting her period, what happened they grow up so fast what I have discussed with my daughter and have already bought for her is panty liners they are much thinner than sanitary towels and don't give the big bulk feeling between the legs they are much more comfortable to wear for the first couple of period's and when they first start their period I am sure you will remember that the flow is normally so light that this should be sufficient for the beginning. Hope this helps.Health Question & Answer

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aww, its common for girls to feel uncomfortable telling there parents especially so young. Looks like your going to have to do some hard work to persuade her t se sanatry towels. I wouldd suggest tamons as you cant see them but if my daughter was 11 i wouldnt really want her to use them.. Is there not a close family member or a friend a similar age who has there periods, maybe they can explain to her sanatry towels are ok and safe and no one can see them. Try buying thin towels so she feels a litle more comfy... good luck xHealth Question & Answer

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I can relate to your daughter because i matured much faster than all the girls in my class. it was nothing against my mom when i started and didnt tell her. for one thing i was scared out of my mind. and two i was embarrassed in a way and didnt want anyone not even my mom to know. so just sit her down and let her know its nothing to be embarrased about and that it is her choice to use pads or tampons. as long as she is not letting it bleed all over her clothes then just let her do her thing and she will definitely come to you with any problems once she gets comfortable with her new found "woman hood"Health Question & Answer

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You need to explain that no one can tell when you use sanitary towels or tampons and that it is totally normal to do so. Tell her that tissue paper is a bad idea because it isn't very absorbant and because of this it could leak so everyone would know or it may smell. Tell her it is totally normal and ask if she's ever noticed anyone wearing a pad/tampon, assuming she says no that's problem solved. Tampons in particular are very very discreet.Health Question & Answer

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ok she should have been educated about this at school. tissues are alright as an emergency, but no one can tell if you wear pads. especially ones like always ultra whihc are only 3mm thick. you can't even feel the seam. buy some and show her. she probaly did'nt tell you because she was embarressed. don't take it personaly. rember how much of a shock it is when you start.Health Question & Answer

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Tell her to watch you.

Come out of the bathroom wearing a pad or something and say this is the first one.

Then come out not wearing one. Say this is the second one.

Ask her which one was the one you were wearing the pad. That will show her you can't really tell.Health Question & Answer

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I got mine when i was 13 and never told my parents till I was 16 no one can see. you should put one on and show her. But if she still thinks that they can see try buying here the always slim& slender the pink once (they are thin) those are the one I use and love them. But maybe you should tell her that everyone would really know if she bled through.Health Question & Answer

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If she has already started then she clearly is using what she wants and is comfortable with that. Why force her to use something else.?

Edit: Then prove to her they are not visible. Remind her how many women use them and that it's something she'll have to get used toHealth Question & Answer

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Well, maybe you should just buy them for her and in time she will use them, and maybe she didn't want to tell you because she found it embarrassing and thought you might over react if it gets really bad just talk to her about it =]Health Question & Answer

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put on on yourself and ask her to tell you when you are and when you are not wearing one - the bodyform ones are so slim, you would never tell. Bless her ~_ I remember the day they we're really thick and you had to wear a belt !!!Health Question & Answer

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tell her everyy girl/teenager/woman wears tampons and pads, its not like she has anything to hide.
but i go with the other people, she prbly is using tampons.
just dont force it down her throught...then she will be totally embarrassed Health Question & Answer

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if she is not comfortable suggest tampons because i had a horrible time with towels my mother wouldnt let me have tampons and i seriously resented her..combine that with pmt you've got yourself one hell of a demon! Health Question & Answer

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The only other answer is tampons. Show her how to use them, and she'll probably feel alot more comfortable.Health Question & Answer

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Put them on yourself and show her. Its then she can actually see for herself what is visible and whats not. Health Question & Answer

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So what's she doing instead.? Bleeding on her clothing.? I bet she's using tampons and just doesn't want to tell you. Health Question & Answer

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Wow. You still shower her. Well umm. Tell her that people wont see a pad and will see that blood dripping from her pants if she doesnt wear one. I bet she is using tampons and doesnt wanna tell you. Have a talk with her.Health Question & Answer

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