Do you think he raped me?!
Question: Do you think he raped me.?
Sometimes when I don't want to have sex my husband gets on top of me and won't get off until I say we can have sex. I'm not sure if this is rape or not. Sometimes if feels that way. I'll say no and he'll say aww come on please. I feel like I'm not being a good wife if I don't have sex with him when he wants.Health Question & Answer
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it's not rape. It's like a kid having a tantrum. He knows if he lays on top of you and insists on his way you'll eventually give in.
Now if you fear he WILL rape you if you don't finally say yes that's another story. That's a marriage worth ditching. Fast.I understand how it might feel like rape though. No one should have to go through that. Being a good wife has nothing to do with sex. Obviously you are attracted to him or you wouldn't have married him and you wouldn't feel guilty if you didn't care about him. But you are not obligated to have sex upon command. Maybe you should talk to him and let him know how much more enjoyable sex would be if both of you were eager to be intimate with each other. Refusal may feel like rejection to him. And him insisting may feel violating to you. What if you guys set special nights together. A night of the week you both can anticipate.Health Question & Answer
Now if you fear he WILL rape you if you don't finally say yes that's another story. That's a marriage worth ditching. Fast.I understand how it might feel like rape though. No one should have to go through that. Being a good wife has nothing to do with sex. Obviously you are attracted to him or you wouldn't have married him and you wouldn't feel guilty if you didn't care about him. But you are not obligated to have sex upon command. Maybe you should talk to him and let him know how much more enjoyable sex would be if both of you were eager to be intimate with each other. Refusal may feel like rejection to him. And him insisting may feel violating to you. What if you guys set special nights together. A night of the week you both can anticipate.Health Question & Answer
No it's not rape. To be a rape, he must have sex with you with using violence/drugging even though you say no.
However, he's forcing you. It is not rape but something very disturbing. You should talk to him about it. Tell him that kind of behaviour is making you feel bad (almost like getting raped).
By the way, even the person with the highest sex drive doesn't want to have sex all the time. It's against human nature. You are still a good wife if you say 'no' to sex sometimes. Yes, sex is an important part of marriage but not everything. And in your case, you don't say "we can never have sex". You're sometimes just not in the mood like ALL women AND men.Health Question & Answer
However, he's forcing you. It is not rape but something very disturbing. You should talk to him about it. Tell him that kind of behaviour is making you feel bad (almost like getting raped).
By the way, even the person with the highest sex drive doesn't want to have sex all the time. It's against human nature. You are still a good wife if you say 'no' to sex sometimes. Yes, sex is an important part of marriage but not everything. And in your case, you don't say "we can never have sex". You're sometimes just not in the mood like ALL women AND men.Health Question & Answer
It is rape if you say no, but If you say okay in the end it is not rape. Does he force you or do you fall under pressure.? Because falling under pressure is your choice. If he does not do it until you say yes or okay than it is not rape. If you do not want to have sex get up and walk away. If he does not like it too bad. You always have a choice whether you are married or not. You might want to see a marital counselor. To work out this problem with your husband. Since he is your husband you should be able to discuss this with him.Health Question & Answer
Well, he is forcing you to do it. It can be considered rape, but not really. You need to lay down the line firm, and say no if you do not want to. And if he continues, it is not right and you should consult a family member. Because you should say when you want to do it as well. Health Question & Answer
It's not rape. You need to work things out with a consuler or something so things don't get worse like him coming home at like 3 in the morning smelling like sex. Set something up soon, until then hang in there and try to ignore him okay. Health Question & Answer
it's not rape if you eventually say yes and willingly do it. that doesn't make it right though - you need to have a serious talk with him about what's going on.Health Question & Answer
I dont think it would be but my god he is your husband and when you say no you should stick to it and thats it my god he doesnt even respect you it sounds like it sit down and talk to him....Health Question & Answer
it don,t matter if your married or not. anytime a man has sex with a woman against her will then it,s rape. but if you give in at the last minute then it,s not considered rape.Health Question & Answer
others right, you wasn't raped (forced to have sex) by your husband, you need to work it out with him or arrange for meeting a family counselor with himHealth Question & Answer
unless you want him to go out and look for sex at the nightclub.
And have him come home at 4 o clock in the morning.
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not considered rape to the willingHealth Question & Answer
I would try to ignore him then. If he's crushing you though, then that's a more serious matter. Health Question & Answer
Its not rape, but, its pretty rude.Health Question & Answer
thats why men are no good.Health Question & Answer
Why do you deprive him.?Health Question & Answer
no hes not raping you.
keep turning him down, he might cheat on you.Health Question & Answer
keep turning him down, he might cheat on you.Health Question & Answer
Your husband cant legally rape you. Your married your one person. He cant get in trouble for it or anything. Basically he can have sex with you whenever he wantsHealth Question & Answer