What should i expect from having sex the first time?!


Question: What should i expect from having sex the first time.?
I'm 19 and a virgin. My boyfriend and i have been talking about it. He is experienced about sex but i want 2 know what should i expect besides the whole hurting issue.?Health Question & Answer


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First, you both should consider going slowly and carefully. Yes, nervousness and stress especially in young women may result in tight vaginal muscles. It appears to me that the tightness the guys associate with a virgin is due more to the lady being nervous and stressed by the new experience more than size or lack of use. Solution is for the guy to take extra time with foreplay and to observe the first rule of male technique or ICS principle: "It's the clitoris stupid." He must take time gently moving from one level of foreplay to the next from your lips, to your neck, to your breasts: explain to him the touches that excite you. Finally, he or you will have to involve the stroking of the clitoris (again you may have to teach him) and if possible, he would be wise to let his tongue work a little for him and you. Only after you have climaxed at least once or otherwise feel satisfied and this may take more than five minutes, will your vagina have relaxed and expanded enough to make intercourse possible and enjoyable.

The above assumes that you both are reasonably compatible in size: that is, if his penis is large and your vagina is in the average to small range as far a size goes, then even extra foreplay may be required. And it assumes, that you are not mad at him or have some other reason to be uptight with him.

More on size. The partners should match in size for good results and nature that set it up so that most guys are a reasonable match for most women but not all. You have indicated your boy friend is "very large": not just the length (average is 5-7") but also girth (average is 4"-5.5): any thing bigger is big to very big. Vaginas also come in various sizes like penises. Unexcited the average vagina is 2.5-3" across and 4" deep: excited it expands about 50% plus or minus. While a average vagina may expand to accommodate a large penis there can be difficulty especially with the first attempts. It can feel wonderful at first just sitting in there. But certainly a smallish vagina is going to have a difficult time dealing with a large penis: in some cases, the large guy will never be able to engage in hard or fast pounding without hurting the cervix and in some cases both partners become sore if it goes on for even a regular length of time. In one case the guy had to wear a donut around the shaft of his penis so that his penis did not enter too deeply into his partner and hurt her. These are things that are not good about being a larger guy. Fortunately, most guys are wonderfully average.

A good number of average women may get excited about a larger penis say on a one night stand; but end up marrying or mating with an average guy.

Now there may be the case of a large male who mates with an average to small female. In this case, he and the lady are going to have to learn what will work for them what will not. What sex positions allow for less penetration than others. He will have to learn to go slow and be more careful than average, accommodations such as these and others can go a long way to making less than compatible bodies more compatible.

In any event, be safe and live and learn and soon pleasure will come.
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There's experience and experience. A young guy can get so excited about the mere idea of having sex with his girl friend, that he will be unable to have much self-control.

A more mature man who knows what he's doing about having sex with a virgin will take great care to make it good for her. He will spend time in affectionate caressing and conversation, and will have K-Y jelly or another appropriate lubricant to make her entire passage slippery and less likely to bleed heavily. For her first time, it's not so much about him as it is about her.

Of course there must be absolute privacy, comfortable surroundings, completely reliable birth control, and plenty of time before, during, and after the occasion to make sure it will be a really positive experience.Health Question & Answer

Just make sure he is the one you want to do it with first. It really doesn't hurt at all. I just bleed the first time. Just make sure you have stuff to clean up with. Sometimes you get emotionally attached to your first guy, so be prepared for that. My boyfriend and I were both virgins and we still are together and plan on getting married. Good luck <3Health Question & Answer

It isn't really painful. It's just uncomfortable. It doesn't hurt as much as people say, believe me. It's just uncomfortable that's all. Just have him go easy the first time & stuff and it should be fine. I didn't bleed at all. Have your boyfriend bring lubricated condoms, they go in easier. Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you but good luck.Health Question & Answer

You may or may not bleed. Bring a bottle of lube, b/c if you are stressed about the first time, you may not produce enough natural moisture for your boyfriend to get in without it being even more painful. Use a condom and get on birth control yourself.Health Question & Answer

well I found a site that should help you out with what to expect and about afterwards as well. also i lot of those questions have been asked on here before if you put it in search for question i'm sure you'll find your answerHealth Question & Answer

it will hurt, but if you love him it wont be a mistake. the first couple times it may hurt. and your "cherry" may not have "popped" the first time, and it may never. but it will hurt.Health Question & Answer

expect being nervous. your vagina might be tight from this. so try to relax and enjoy. and LOTS of foreplay. make sure you're ready for it though.Health Question & Answer



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