Depression getting worse, sick all the time?!
Question: Depression getting worse, sick all the time.?
I'm now 10 weeks pregnant, and I thought I might start to feel better by this time, but I'm feeling worse. I'm still sick and vomiting all the time, I have no appetite, I can't sleep, and my depression is getting worse. My husband is so excited about the baby, and I'm so unhappy about it.
Our other children are 16 and 11. We were only 25 when the youngest was born, and felt we were too young to have anything permanent done, so I've been on the pill all this time. The kids and I were gone for a week in August to the beach, I missed a couple of pills while I was away. When I got home, of course hubby and I had sex, yes, we did use a condom, I went to planned parenthood the NEXT MORNING and got the morning after pill, which obviously didn't work.
I am devastated by this. I wasn't trying to get pregnant, as matter of fact, I didn't want to get pregnant at all! Now here we are, when we should be getting financially ready to send kids to college and get ready for retirement, looking towards having an infant in the house. I don't even think we'll financially survive my maternity leave, let alone the medical bills. I am so upset and worried, and he just treats me as though it's all nothing, that it's just crazy pregnancy hormones. I also have some health issues that make it much more risky to carry on with this pregnancy, but it seems like he really doesn't care.
I haven't told anyone except him that I'm pregnant, I'm embarrassed and ashamed by it. How can I make him see that this isn't a thing to be happy about.? How can I get him to realize that I have real, legitimate concerns.?Health Question & Answer
Our other children are 16 and 11. We were only 25 when the youngest was born, and felt we were too young to have anything permanent done, so I've been on the pill all this time. The kids and I were gone for a week in August to the beach, I missed a couple of pills while I was away. When I got home, of course hubby and I had sex, yes, we did use a condom, I went to planned parenthood the NEXT MORNING and got the morning after pill, which obviously didn't work.
I am devastated by this. I wasn't trying to get pregnant, as matter of fact, I didn't want to get pregnant at all! Now here we are, when we should be getting financially ready to send kids to college and get ready for retirement, looking towards having an infant in the house. I don't even think we'll financially survive my maternity leave, let alone the medical bills. I am so upset and worried, and he just treats me as though it's all nothing, that it's just crazy pregnancy hormones. I also have some health issues that make it much more risky to carry on with this pregnancy, but it seems like he really doesn't care.
I haven't told anyone except him that I'm pregnant, I'm embarrassed and ashamed by it. How can I make him see that this isn't a thing to be happy about.? How can I get him to realize that I have real, legitimate concerns.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
as with any problem in a marriage you need to sit down with your husband and talk to him about it. if you have health reasons that would cause any problems with a pregnancy then you and your spouse should go to the doctor and have him/her explain it all to your husband and tell him all the options that you have in handling this pregnancy. it will all sound better coming from a doctor than it will coming from you. in the mean time do not say anything to anyone including your children. it could be that it's not that he doesn't care it could be that he just does not fully understand the situation you are in.Health Question & Answer
you should be ashamed of yourself for not wanting this baby there are alot of people who get pregnant when they do not plan to so stop thinking that you are special babies are gifts and there are alot of people who would love to have a baby who cant you should stop throwing yourself a pity party get up off of your butt and get over it do all you can to make this pregnancy a healthy one moping around will not help you feel betterHealth Question & Answer