Why do i have trouble having an orgasm by masturbation?!
Question: Why do i have trouble having an orgasm by masturbation.?
I'm a 40 yr old woman happily married almost 18 yrs..When my husband and i make love i have NEVER had any problems having an orgasms....I rarely masturbate cause we usually make love 2-3 times a week so i dont feel the need to masturbate but maybe a few times a month i like to do my own thing but a lot of times it takes forever to have an orgasm like half an hr or more and other times it wont even happen..I stimulate my cl*t with my fingers...I have no interested in putting a toy in me...So any other suggestions..Like i said i never have had any trouble having orgasms when we make love.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Well you have to set the mooood :-) close the curtains (i find a dark room works best for me), and lie back and relax. The imagination is a fantastic tool - it's also totally private and no-one will ever know what you were thinking about. So imagine your naughtiest, horniest fantasy, whatever it is. There are no limits when you're alone with your imagination.
You really have to find what works for you. I find imagining someone other than my husband works for me because it's naughty and while I'd never cheat on him, I can imagine whoever I want in my mind.
But hey, as you're getting it so frequently it could simply be that your nerve endings are a bit maxxed out! :-)Health Question & Answer
You really have to find what works for you. I find imagining someone other than my husband works for me because it's naughty and while I'd never cheat on him, I can imagine whoever I want in my mind.
But hey, as you're getting it so frequently it could simply be that your nerve endings are a bit maxxed out! :-)Health Question & Answer
Well, don't feel bad it takes me a while to have orgasm when I masturbate, not too long though on about 15 minutes. I would suggest using some KY lube which helps me alot. also, use your fingers to rub your clitoris and your other fingers into your vagina while you do that. That usually works for me. What helps is trying to find your G-spot which I know where that is.Health Question & Answer
You don't need to put a toy in you. One's like like the bullet, are made to stimulate your clitoris. Even though you're by yourself, it may help to imagine your husband with you, and act like if he was. Health Question & Answer
It may be that you need that internal stimulation - I just ordered a small cl*toral vibe from this site - works great!
http://www.holisticwisdom.com/index.htm
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Everybody is different but try watching something. Health Question & Answer
I can't tell you every way there is to have an orgasm... every girl and woman is different, and it would take way longer for me to type it all out than it would for you to give yourself one... but one thing you can do to find out is check out these webpages:
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat...
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat...
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm in one or more of these ways, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
Have fun and don't worry. Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.Health Question & Answer
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat...
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat...
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm in one or more of these ways, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
Have fun and don't worry. Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.Health Question & Answer
Try this and see if you like it, it will help you know the feeling, and learn to know your body, and will help you getting your orgasms during loveplay:
Make yourself very very comfortable, take a hot bath or something, then go to your bed, or other nice place. Start massaging yourself, stimulate your clit. you can already reach an orgasm this way. If you want to, please do, after that, insert your finger, and inside your vagina, curl it upwards, so that the top of your finger pushed upwards in your belly. Feel around a bit there, and you will find your g-spot. Stimulate this spot until you feel like you have to pee. Never mind that feeling, and just continue. The orgasm you will reach then (especially if it is your second), will be much intenser, and can even cause you to ejaculate. If you want to go even further, then use the moist from your vagina, and stroke the small place between your vagina and anus (perineum). If you dare trying this, most women enjoy this really alot, once they put aside their fears for it: stroke your wet finger around your anus, going more and more towards the middle. Then, when you feel like it is the right time, gently push it in. Very gently, very slowly, very carefully. If you feel like it, you can combine it with vaginal or clitoral stimulation for extreme pleasure.
You should try to get past the peeing feeling. I know you are afraid, and are holding it all up, because you do not want to pee at that time. But you should just relax, go with the flow, totally relax, and play. Then, you will come, and ejaculate. It will perhaps even feel like peeing, and fluids will come, but it is not pee, I promise you! And most of all, you will have had an orgams that you will never again forget...
I noticed btw that ejaculation orgasms are seldom the first, first is a normal orgasm, then slow down a bit, but do not stop, and gradually increase stimulation, then you will reach a "higher" orgasm.
http://www.sana-life.netHealth Question & Answer
Make yourself very very comfortable, take a hot bath or something, then go to your bed, or other nice place. Start massaging yourself, stimulate your clit. you can already reach an orgasm this way. If you want to, please do, after that, insert your finger, and inside your vagina, curl it upwards, so that the top of your finger pushed upwards in your belly. Feel around a bit there, and you will find your g-spot. Stimulate this spot until you feel like you have to pee. Never mind that feeling, and just continue. The orgasm you will reach then (especially if it is your second), will be much intenser, and can even cause you to ejaculate. If you want to go even further, then use the moist from your vagina, and stroke the small place between your vagina and anus (perineum). If you dare trying this, most women enjoy this really alot, once they put aside their fears for it: stroke your wet finger around your anus, going more and more towards the middle. Then, when you feel like it is the right time, gently push it in. Very gently, very slowly, very carefully. If you feel like it, you can combine it with vaginal or clitoral stimulation for extreme pleasure.
You should try to get past the peeing feeling. I know you are afraid, and are holding it all up, because you do not want to pee at that time. But you should just relax, go with the flow, totally relax, and play. Then, you will come, and ejaculate. It will perhaps even feel like peeing, and fluids will come, but it is not pee, I promise you! And most of all, you will have had an orgams that you will never again forget...
I noticed btw that ejaculation orgasms are seldom the first, first is a normal orgasm, then slow down a bit, but do not stop, and gradually increase stimulation, then you will reach a "higher" orgasm.
http://www.sana-life.netHealth Question & Answer