I am involuntarily childless, what could help me cope with others talking about their babies?!


Question: I am involuntarily childless, what could help me cope with others talking about their babies.?
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I understand how you feel, as through circumstance now I am too old to have them. They were, however, never really big on my agenda. I have and still do get all the comments. There are those that pity you and try to make you feel better, which ends up annoying you, and those that are anti-children who will ***** about kids to you, as though you are in agreement and whom I found, are really negative. I have also heard some mothers say "oh, you are so much better off without them". This really annoys me because I would hate my mother to say that about me. I cope with new mothers by actually limiting my time with them. It has meant that I have lost a few friends over the years. In the end I found that they tended to hang around other new mothers anyway through baby clubs, schools etc. I found their talk boring actually, and left them to it. Even the friends that were open minded enough to see that I was not part of their world and would love to hear more about my life (they felt trapped and my life was so much more interesting) eventually got more involved in their childrens lives as they got older. These days I have a strong group of friends who are either child free or their kids are older. I have one or two that have younger kids but they never talk about them with me. They like their time with me to be about other things. You are going through a transitional time at the moment. Probably grief as well. Don't feel you need to get involved in the lives of other mothers at this stage if it hurts you. They can be overwhelming as a group and it will make you feel bad. There are other ways if you have a need to be fulfilled (I never did because I never really wanted kids, but I can understand that you may need this). Until you find that way, stay away from the mothers (or give them 10 minutes of baby talk and then that is it)Health Question & Answer

some people are so rude
Unless they are going through the same situation they do not understand. One then you can do is quickly change the subject when they start talking about there kids. If you are close to them tell them that you are happy for them but it still hurts you when they carry on about there kids and to please try not do do it when you are around.Health Question & Answer

that guys answer was rude..... well, if ur close to them, you could kindly explauin to them not to and why, im sure they understand...or, if they are close family members, dont look at it because u cant, look at it because it is a caring family conversation between u and that family member, or u can listen to them politely and gradually change the conversation...i wish you the best of luck, and everyones time comes for a child, no matter how that child is recieved or conceived...Health Question & Answer

get over it.

If you can't, then don't be in amongst "mothers". Sometimes you just can't have things you want. No point winging about it. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and be happy for other's joy.Health Question & Answer

Either ignore it, or explain to them that you don't have kids, and their talk is not helping. If they won't stop, leave the room.Health Question & Answer

Have a child or adopt a child and then talk about it.Health Question & Answer



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