I'm disapointed with myself and tend to regret things?!
Question: I want to move on, but it seems like i'm stuck with my past. My dad said to me that I should just move on and let go of my past hurts. How? My brother said before that we are all connected to our past.
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This might sound really stupid, but I used to and still do a little feel the way you do. When I was seeking help about it, I was told to write my little disappointments or things I regretted on some paper, wad up the paper, and throw it away. It's like I needed that visual to realize that the past is the past, there isn't anything I can do about it except maybe learn from it and do better next time around. What good it is doing you just sitting around nursing these things ya know? Make up for it however you can.
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Think of it this way. You can live the rest of your life miserable. Or you can get over it, realize that it's in the past and there is nothing that can change it, and be happy that you have the power to make your life the way you want it. Why are you going to let bad things keep you down? You have to get up! Accept that those things happened. Then accept that you're going to live your life as a happy person because you can.
We make mistakes in order to learn, and to grow, and to mature. Everyone makes mistakes - they are a part of life.
If you have learned from your mistakes and vow not to make them again, then you should be more forgiving and not so hard on yourself. Every person on this planet makes mistakes every day - it is part of being a human being.
If you still can't get on with your life, then try to find a counselor or a trust adult whom you can discuss this further. Maybe once you have vented and talked this out, you will begin to feel better.
Good Luck!
yes its true dat we all feel stuck to da past for sometime..n ur dad is rite.u shud move on coz there is no other way in which u can find happniness for urself..but ur rite on ur part too..its almost next to impossible..
im someone who still lives in da past..but u think dats da solution.are we going to get sumting good out of it?
da best way i wud suggest is to divert ur mind..put ur mind in to sumting else..some work,studies or some social activity..try as much as u can to interact wid different people coz da more u come closer to people wid different problems,,u feel better coz there are people wid even greater problems than us.so stay calm,do some meditation and divert ur mind in to some good activity!
It's my opinion that you should never wish any part of your past away. Everything that has happened to you has helped to make you into the person you are. You have learned something from everything that you have ever experienced, the good and (even moreso) the bad.
The people who have hurt you in the past have taught you the value of people who don't hurt you.
The people you have hurt have taught you empathy.
Rushing into things has taught you the value of thinking things through.
The reprecussions of excess have taught you moderation.
The results of going to extremes has taught you temperance.
If you've chosen the wrong path, you've gained insight on what to look for in choosing a better path for the future.
Don't regret your past. Instead, reflect on it. Understand that what has happened, is done. It can not be changed, and never will be.
But you, and only you, can shape your reaction to your past. You can control what you learn from it, and how it will affect you as the person you will be in the future.
Appriciate all of the good in your life. Starting with the family members with whom you are close enough to seek their advise. That in itself is a very great blessing.
Then learn to be comfortable enough with your past that, when someone asks your advice about a similar situation someday, that you'll be able to offer sound advice.
Learn from your past, appriciate the positive in the present, and make a conscous effort to shape your own future into a life you are happy and proud to live.
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