i have trouble in public speakings.?!
Question: i cant go infornt of people do you have tips for me to conquer my fear?
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Yes. There is nothing worse than arriving cold into a strange and busy room filled with a sea of faces and being expected to start talking easily.
So if you can possibly do this, get there early and chat to people as they arrive. This is a slow build up, and you get into the habit of talking (you can even mention that you are a nervous public speaker -- they will try to put you at your ease, but at least you will have them "on your side"). Shmooze first, be VERY early, hang about.
Second, confidence is knowledge. If you know what you are talking about, you will not be tripped up. If you feel passionate or believe in what you are talking about, then you can let that out once you have managed to begin!
Seriously, if you do not know what you are talking about, if you are unsure in any way, if there are uncertainties -- you will mess up. Research, study, know and believe.
If you are interested other can be too.
Thirdly -- remember that it is not all that bad when you break it down:
(1) Formalities;
(2) Intro: Tell them what you are going to talk about, for how long, and why etc.;
(3) Do the talk;
(4) Tell them what the talk was about -- summarise it;
(5) Formalities;
-- that's five chunks. In a half-hour talk, that's just 6 minutes for each bit. Just SIX minutes!
This means that your notes can be really simple (you will be repeating yourself, more-or-less, three times). Don't worry about this, people need to be told three times to understand what you are talking about.
When you are about to do the talk, drink some water, take a huge breath and let it out slowly, stretch and make your lips relax by going "brrr". Smile the biggest smile you can. Practice smiling. Smile as much as you can for a few days before hand to get your face used to it, and so that it becomes a reflex to fall back on. a natural expression.
As you stand there in front of everyone, find some face nearby that you know well, and do a small diversion or distraction by talking to them or with them. This is a great technique -- it crosses any imaginary divides between performer and audience -- that's why comediand pick people from the front row. This could be your chance to thank someone for the opportunity etc. The person could be your boss, the client, the bride, or merely someone you want to have everyone meet beforehand.
Get into the habit of talking -- so even when you have nothing to say, talk -- like commentators do -- if you are stopping to have a drink of water, say that! "Sorry, mouth's a bit dry -- need a swig of water (gulp) right, where were we, oh yes." If the multi-media is not working, talk your way through it. KEEP TALKING because silence is the killer. You cannot have more than 3 seconds of silence. Keep it flowing.
Practice this at home, describe your house, use a dictaphone -- keep talking!
Use persuasion techniques and oration techniques:
(1) Everything is in threes -- 3 examples, 3 attempts, always 3. A lot of jokes have 3 lines. Italians talk really quickly, but they actually say everything three times, each time slightly differently. That's why you tell them what you are going to say, say it then summarise it. But use the rule of 3 as much as possible.
(2) Use the magic word "because". This is a trigger word for humans and people will accept anything as long as this word is used. It doesn't matter if what comes after the word actually is valid, just use the word a LOT. Thank you for coming today because it means a lot to me.
NEVER rehearse the actual talk or speech you are going to give, never plan it second by second. Never have overly complicated reliance on multi-media. You can practice techniques, but never script it -- that doesn't work for most people and creates havoc if one little thing is out of place or forgotten.
Hope this helps! And Best of Luck!
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Public speaking is the second worst fear in the world. Public failure is first. Its normal to fell flushed and jittery in tense situations. I took a public speaking class. we started off small.. a minute at a time and by the end of the class we were all making 30 to 45 minute speeches. Maybe you can try the old "imagine everyone in thier underware" thing
I took a public speaking class at a local community college and it really helped me out. They give you tons of tips, and most likely, everyone will be in the same boat and just as nervous as you. If this doesn't work, then check out some books at your local library on the subject. Don't forget that this is a huge huge fear for many people so most audiences are sympathetic to how you are feeling. Good luck and break a leg!
along with all the other advice..practice in front of a mirror, try visiting the place your going to speak ahead of time to get a feel for it and make sure you have good notes!
just don't do it, that's what i do, i avoid it at all costs
no really, good luck to you, i wish i could have overcome this fear, but i failed
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