Do I really look as bad as I think I do?!
Question: When I look like crap I freak out and start screaming and stuff and it controls my life. Do I just think I look bad? I don't think I see myself the same way others do because people tell me im so beautiful bad I see myself as ugly. Right now Im thinking about calling outa work just because I look so ugly today. Is it all in my head?
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I know how you feel; I go through the same thing. I’ll look in the mirror and think that I am nothing more than a walking mess, but people tell me I’m pretty and my husband thinks I’m the most beautiful girl in the world. I don’t see my good, only my bad. There’s a condition called body dsymorphic disorder, where you have an imagined physical problem or an exaggerated concern about a minimal defect, which consumes your day to day life. You might want to find some more info on that. You will miss out on life if you let these negative thoughts consume you. I know this sounds cheesy, but try to focus on all of the beauty inside of you, because that’s where you will find your true happiness. We live in such a superficial society, and our lives are consumed by so many things that are truly insignificant. We are programmed to think that we need to meet certain standards of beauty, but that’s just so businesses can make money off of us! Remember that every time you see a commercial with one of those "perfect" women (who are airbrushed, of course). I really hope you are able to overcome this. Best of luck to you!
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You might think about seeing a therapist. Most people are not as ugly as they think they are. Sometimes I look in the mirror and think I look like a dead body. A good therapist, or even a good friend can help you with self esteem issues.
Yes, it is all in your head. Unfortunately, it won't do you much good to get reassurances from anyone here that you really don't look like crap, because as long as you believe you do, life isn't going to get easier. People are telling you that you are beautiful and you perpetually see yourself as ugly, no amount of compliment or reassurance is going to change your mind. You need therapy, and you need it now.
I heard a comedian once say that men and women use different mirrors when getting ready in the morning. When a man looks in a mirror he sees that he is only 4 or 5 push ups from sitting in a hot tub with Pam Anderson.
But when a women looks in the mirror they always look substantially worse than they actually look.
If you want proof.go to a beach, or a pool! You will see some of the largest breathing mammals on earth that have shrewdly chosen the speedo bathing suit!
By this I mean that in my experiance women always think they look bad! I am sure you look great, so don't get yourself down.and if you are getting a lot of looks, just remember they are seeing beauty. they are always looking, but because you feel bad the looks will feel bad!
Good luck!
look on the bright side-you might look even worse than you think you do
YOU ARE NOT UGLY BUT ON THE OTHER HAND YOU ARE SUCH A FINE LADY BUT TOO MUCH STRESSED OUT.
YOU NEED OUTSIDE HELP TO TEACH YOU HOW TO CALM DOWN IT IS JUST SIMPLE BETTER GO CONSULT RIGHT PERSON IT IS WORTH SPENDING SOME MONEY.
you should talk to a specialist, not because you are crazy but there is something wrong with you ,. I hear story like that before and it have to be treat :)
Please get help before it turn bad ;) !
You have got your nose too high in the air and you are going to drown if it rains!
i feel the same way, so hopefully it's all in our heads.
people tell me I'm beautiful i don't think i am.
they probably just say that to make me feel better
about myself. i don't know!
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