I hv a posssessive boyfriend and due him i m suffering both personally and profe!


Question: My unemployed boyfriend calls me all the time in my office,accuses me of hving left him for my career and tht i hv now forgotten him.I knw he is upset but when he speaks he uses most harsh language.I try to make him see sense but he dosent budge.As i result i hv cried often in my office or had a row wid him when things became too much.If i disconnect my phone he calls me again n again and threatens to kill himself or never to talk me so i hv to receive his calls.Due to all this people in my office hv seen me crying or heard me hving a fight wid him.I once used certain words which i shouldnt hv but now i fear all people must hv heard it.They dont knw why i used such words but now the damage is being done.I feel ashamed going to office and face all the people over there.I cant leave this job as it is the starting of my career and i hv to support myself and relieve my parents of my responsibility.But due to my boyfriend i hv lost it all professional respect and my focus for life help me .
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Ohh god u really need some help. Firstly dont be scared for whatever he says, he knows u r decent enough and tolerate whatever he says for the sake of good reputation. So just make him look like a fool to himself. Do this step by step. Firstly when he scold u just say how much u want to scold me just do it, and l am just keeping my phone on my desk and do my work when u finish just hang out. Like this will make him gradually feel stupid. Always be nice with words to him this will make him clam down coz from ur question l feel making him angry is no use at all. Finally having a bf like this for ur future will be a big problem, so slowly get out from him even u loves him. This will be a big problem to u in future as no trust nor any support to u from the man.

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Break up with your boyfriend. (And it sounds like you need police protection as well).
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Don't leave your job. It's important for your future.
Do you still want to keep him as a boyfriend?
Stop making excuses for the jerk! He is an adult. He is responsible for his actions and words. Tell him that his behavior must stop, and that he needs to get a job, otherwise you will be leaving, not for your career or another man, but for yourself. What he is putting you through is not healthy emotionally, and could escalate into violence on his part. Honey, I have been through this. Trust me, it is not going to get any better unless you put your foot down, and stick to your guns. He sounds possessive and insecure, which is a terribly bad combination. If he doesn't straighten up, get out FAST!
leave the bastard
Here's the deal. You need a class that will help improve your communication skills, because it took me three times to understand what yo were getting at. Next, you need to dump the BF, because a tiger don't change his stripes, and this WILL continue for as long as you let it. Break these ties, and if he calls.hang up. This is an unhealthy relationship for you, both personally and professionally. Counseling is not a four letter word, either. Talking will help you get through it.
You obviously have MAJOR self-esteem issues to allow yourself to be treated this way. He can only treat you as bad as you allow him to. Either get rid of him or learn to live with it because you cannot change someone else.
Hun.ditch your bf he's abusive and bringing you down.Don't let his threats of suicide keep you from doing what you need to do.Go to the police and get a restraining order on him and if he calls you or shows up call the police and he will be arrested.Life's too short for you to live like that.
You do not have a possessive boyfriend you have an abusive boyfriend. Tell him to either get counseling or you will end the relationship. Also try to sit down with him and explain how you feel when he does what he does and let him know you will not tolerate it any longer. Stick to your guns because he will get you fired and then start in on how inadequate you are for losing your job. The abuse will not stop until you either leave him or stop tolerating it.
Good luck.
i think u shud just dump ur BF.i dont think he's even gud enuf 4 u.a relationship agreed has its ups n downs but it sounds as if u r really miserable n y should u live with tht misery..u r an independant girl n u have ur own life n identity..i think ur BF is suffering from an inferiority complex .. he should b happy tht u r doing so well for urself instead he's envious.i think u should get out of tis relationship as soon as possible
Hopefully he doesn't live with you. If he doesn't, you must plan very carefully how to break up with him and then protect yourself afterwards. If he is possessive, then he will not let go easily. Tell your fears to as many people as you can. Let them know your situation so you don't have to go through this alone. And last but not least, inform the police if he becomes violent.
So dump the idiot. He has the `little man complex` and is terribly insecure. Dump him NOW. He will probably wind up knocking the **** out of you if you don`t. Get away and stay away. You don`t need to suffer because of someone who cannot deal with his problems. If I knew you, I would take care of this bastard tonight. In your own self-interest, do not hesitate and do not listen to his whining when you do it. He will not change and is apt to hurt you.
I really understand your situation. A friend of mine has experienced the same thing. But she couldn't stand it anymore so that she broke the relationship eventhough the ex threatened her that he will go for suicide. But until now, he's still alive. So my suggestion is you'd better leave him as soon as possible!
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you should leave his *** a fast as you can, or something bad can happen, you should come first and many other guys will come. you should just think about yourself and your future. he sounds like he has some serious problems and you need to leave! good luck!
He's not worth it. He needs a J O B. Go 5050 on him and let him know that he's not going to bring you down. Girl, wake up because woman today don't need to take anything from a man and one who doesn't know the meaning of working.

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