what to do if you have a friend who is very over weight? you try to tell how how!
Question: my friend who is very over weight loves to eat. I convinced her to start a diet and she did,but now i fell like i am the one to blame. i think i feel like this because i am always telling her to lose weight or trying to get her to cut back on junk food. i am so lost. she is on the verge ok a total melt down
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Excuse me!!! I know that you are concerned about her and you want her to be healthy and look better, but IT'S HER BODY!! not yours. If she's not asking for your advice, leave her alone!!
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just tell ur friend that u really care about her and that u are worred about her health. let her know that u support her and that u want her to be around 4 years to come cuz being over weight puts her at risk 4 alot of health problems.
I just make fun of all of my overweight friends. They really don't learn to stop eating so much, though.
hey now, i kno how you feel but dont tell her stuff like that, be a lil more seattle (u trying to get her to kill herself?)
try somin like, i rlly feel like a walk today its so nice outside, u wanna come?
or, omg! i found this great diet on the website, u wanna try it w/ me?
(if she thinks its for you she may not feel so bad)
Why does how you feel about it matter? Sounds like you are hounding and harassing her. It also sounds like you think you are better than she is because you don't have a weight problem.
You need to find other ways to feel good about yourself that don't involve pointing out your friends' problems.
it is not you it sounds like you feel it is your fault it isnt your friend should take our advice(if you are not harassing her about it)if not its not your fault you tried
Work out a little with her. When she starts losing weight tell her how hot she looks. The positive encouragement works better, than telling her she needs to diet. Invite her over for dinner and eat healthy foods. I eat like a football player that's why I stick to healthy foods, so I don't gain a lot of weight. The moral, use positive encouragement, if she sticks to her diet, tell her she looks great, take her to do active things, like sports, dancing, working out.
Rather than being critical, provide encouragement! Nothing, I repeat, NOTHING is more encouraging than hearing someone say "You look thinner" or "have you lost weight?" She is likely frustrated because, although your intentions are good, you focus more on how she can improve rather than how good she has done all ready. Praise her for every triumph (everytime she chooses a healthier snack, everytime she excercizes, every pound lost). Encourage, encourage, encourage.
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My own experience with weight loss.
i had the same probalem, but listen if they are your friends they would understand you are just trying to help him/her out. encourage him/her to maybe go for an hour walk everyday adn to cut down. try to be patient and even if it makes you feel dorky tell her that you just want to help her before REAL problems overtake her body from being overweight.
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i have knee probs from just being a little over weight. and i know TONS of ppl who are overweight that have opersations on there leg bones and back because of it. let's just hope they'll understand
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