I need someones help that has been really depressed before!?!
Question: I have a friend that has a blood father that has been in and out of jail and never has really been there for him. A mother that has spoiled him with money things but has not been there for his sports or school activites. His step Dad that legally adopted has recently passed away. He was sent off for evaluation for a week. But when he came back he is still hanging with the friends he used too. (ones that are going to get him in trouble) Now he is sneaking behind his moms back to see them. I've tried talking to him. And we have had some pretty good talks, but he is really stubborn. I just don't know how to help him anymore. PLEASE HELP ME! His mother waiting for him to mess up again so she can send him off for a long while!
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Oh my gosh, i totally know what you are going through! My best friend that was adopted at birth along with his brother, his adopted parents are now divorced, is at a boys camp in Utah. I can't say i know what both our friends are going through , but i do know what you are going through. talk to his mom or dad or his friend or your parents they will help control you frustration. my best friend that got shipped off to camp never listened to his parents. i talk to his adopted dad all the time, we have become good friends and are still trying to help my best friend out. i recommend talking to other people that are close to hime because talking to him isn't working very well. REMEMBER. if anything happens to him that is bad. it isn't your fault..don't blame yourself for his mistakes.i wish you and your friend the best!
-someone who feels you pain
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It sounds like his distructive behavior isn't going to end with some talks. Talking helps, yes, but sometimes a hospital stay and medication makes things better. I've had depression for a few years now, and it came to it's point last April when I tried to kill myself. If it weren't for the hospital stay back then, I might not be alive today. The stay will be good for him. Just be there for him along the way.
Sometimes you can't help people. He has had a hard life, and he has to find his own way.sorry to say that, but you can't force him to do anything.
Of course, that's not the best thing for his mother to do, but she may feel like that's her only choice.
Where exactly is she sending him to? Like a rehabilitation center, or like a half-way house? You should really be specific!
Give him some space and be there for him when he needs it. It sounds like he needs some serious counseling, but I doubt if he will get it. You just may have to stand back and let the pieces fall where they may.
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