What would keep you from suicide?!
Question: please don't post any "you should see a doctor" or "you need help" or chrystian isues,I do respect those opinions but please answer the question or ignore it!
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I'm leaving all the trite things out like friends and family because I'm sure you've heard them already (or can tell yourself), you may not even have either of those anyway. Here are some things that keep me around:
A movie/book I'm looking forward to see/read. No way I'm bailing out without finding out the ending of Harry Potter! Or the next X-Men. Or what Peter Jackson will tackle next.
Technology improvements. There's a new version of my favorite programs/gadgets around the corner every day.
Greedy selfishness. Until I get around to deciding & assigning who's going to get the things that mean a lot to me, I'll stay, I'm not leaving that up to some cleaning crew.
Sheer fear. Not fear of hell or any such crap, but I do believe that we're here to learn a lesson & if we don't, we'll just repeat the course. I can't imagine having to go through the same bad times again.
The tide does turn. No matter how bad things have gotten, sooner or later there's been something good happening however brief. I'm still hopeful.
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my boyfriend is keeping me from suicide. ive been suicidal for a while until i found someone that loves me and makes me happy. maybe you should find someone who you can love and would love you too.
My husband, my daughter. I wouldn't want to miss anything. Even if things seem like they can't get any worse, that just means that they have to eventually get better right?
Personally, whenever I get upset or depressed I try to think about things that are important to me, like family, friends, my dog, my future. I also try to see what a suicide does to the depressed person's loved ones. Suicide is so selfish. There are so many people that care without you (you being anyone, not just you in particular, question asker) even knowing it. Burying a child is the worst thing in the world. Losing a sibling or parent can seriously impede a person's ability to deal with their own life and issues. To take one's own life is weak. It is a cowardly attempt to escape the hard things in life. Nothing in life is easy, but anything you have to work for is worth the time and energy. There is nothing that can possibly happen that is worth killing oneself over. Even if everyone at school or work or wherever makes fun of a person, it isn't worth it. People tease others because they are insecure or jealous or stupid. If a person is depressed or upset or thinking suicidally they should try to make a list of the people and things they care about and how they would feel if that person took their own life. Also, making a list of things you want to do in your lifetime can be motivation to turn your life around. Think about your future and if you want kids (how many? boys or girls?), if you want to be married, to have a certain career, etc. Maybe there are just things you'd like to try, like skydiving, or waterskiing or snowboarding. There is always something to look forward to, and something to stay alive for. I know you don't want to hear it, but if you feel suicidal, getting help is really a good idea. Even just talking it out with a close friend or relative (not a therapist) can make a world of difference. Good luck. I hope you are okay.
Honestly, I'm not really a religious person, but since they say that suicide is the ultimate sin and there is no way to redeem from it, that would be enough for me.
Truly, life IS what you make of it. If you want to be happy, do things that make you happy. IF you want to be unhappy, continue doing nothing. Life does get better if you want it to. At times, life changes in a heartbeat and if you die, you'll never know what great changes could turn life around.
Hope you aren't considering suicide. If you are and you want to be happy instead just do good things for yourself and others, try to be a good role model for others around you and decide what kind of person you want to be in the future and you will become that. Trust me, those three things can make you have a fantastic life (I know, because I have one and I have always done those 3 things).
Good luck.
the pain it causes survivors.
Life is but a mere moment in time. We all die eventually, so enjoy everyday like its your last, and you'll be able to look back on memories not depressions. Hurting loved ones by putting them through the "clean up of mess" your leaving will cause.no not bodily fluids. Funeral planning, property dispersal, etc. Can you imagine your Mom or Mom Substitute going through your personal belongings, and having to decide what to do with it?, all the while feeling guilty because she should have helped more, should have seen it coming, etc.
Whatever situation your in, walk away from it.seek a shelter or a relative to stay. Talk to someone. Do you have a friend, brother, sister? Call a helpline. Hear a voice of reason from somewhere.
You said keep religion out, but fear of God and certainly fear of hell kept me from suicidal tendancies. If hell exists, you will be tormented until the end of time, because life is a gift, and not yours to give or take as you please.
The truth is that the only thing that has kept me from suicide was the fact that i believe in Jesus Christ and that there is hope in him i know you dont want to hear that but for me it was the only thing nothing else seemed to be of a great enough significance in my life to prevent that besides i have never had counselling either.
The fear of death it self would keep me from suicide. Once you cross that line that's it you can't go back it is final.
I would try to help other people who are worse off than myself..Remember Time will heal all things but it takes Time and not a day sometimes years..Start doing things you enjoy. Another thing that would keep me from suicide is my pets I have 2 dogs and 2 cats and they would have no one If I left them.I have no kids so my pets are my kids..good luck.
God is the answer. The only answer, I know you said no Cristian related stuff but you see everything is about God, You should pray, think of the good things and not so much of the bad. Just think of everyone who has it worse, think of all God has given you. Everyone sins, I can tell you now I do but I can never take the past back, so I let God take care of it and cleanse me, He will forgive you so don't worry and smile! Hope this helped, Love you!
some one else important to me doing it first.
ITS HARD I THINK THAT THERES SOME BASIC INSTINCT IN US TO STOP US FROM SELF DESTRUCTING, I NEVER HEARD OF ANY SPECIES KILLING THEMSELVES, JUST HUMANS, I ALSO THINK ITS GENETIC 2 PEOPLE IN MY FAMILY HAVE DONE IT, AND QUITE OFTEN I'M SUICIDAL, I GET DRUNK AND PUT A GUN TO MY HEAD BUT NEVER DRUNK ENOUGH TO PULL THE TRIGGER.
I myself know six people who've committed suicide.all men..3 relatives, 2 high school friends and one friend from college. I think that everyone has a different method of coping and everyone's method isn't as good as others. And I also think everyone has limits to what they can handle and if people haven't learned how to cope with life's struggles, it's easy to see how they can succumb to suicide.
I've forwarded the following link to friends and acquaintances many times who've said they've reached their limit. I tell them to read just page 5, if not the entire book.
http://www.hopeline.com/docs/suicide.pdf#search='suicide%20the%20forever%20decision'
It's a PDF, so you'll need Acrobat Reader to view it.
There was a time more than a dozen years ago when I reached my limit and someone who could tell, saved me by asking me to read only page 5. I ended up reading the entire book. And I'm still here, so it must be good stuff.
And luckily after surfing the Internet one day I found the book, now free on the Internet as a service to others.
:)
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