Having children and giving up your life?!
Question: I do not have children, and do not want them. I am 23 years old, and have taken a vow a chastity 2.5 years ago. I feel that if I were to have children, I would be giving up the greatness of living my life to the fullest. If you have children, how do you feel about this, honestly, with regards to yourself and only yourself.
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You can't have everything. If you don't have children, you are free to do other things. And there were many things I wanted to do but couldn't because I had decided to have a baby.
Do I wish I didn't have him, absolutely not. He is a big part of my life and so many things that I could have done, would have been long forgotten by now. For me, it was the right decision, but it would not be for everyone.
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I live in England and caught pregnant at 20. My daughter was born 2 months after my 21st birthday. I love my daughter dearly but was gutted when i found out I was pregnant. i felt my life was over. Its not that way though. I am glad i didn't get an abortion which at the time I wanted. My daughter is the most precious thing in the world. Its hard being a single parent and I won't be doing it again
I honestly feel my children have added to my life, not taken from it. They offer such a fresh perspective on things. I see a part of myself and also a part of my husband in our kids and it is so amazing. I never ever regret having them and quite honestly couldn't imagine life without them. I still have good times with my husband, friends and we travel as much if not more than we did before we had the kids. All of our friends have kids about the same age, so maybe that is part of what makes it so great. Each person is entitled to choose what is right for their lives, and for me, having kids was the definite and obvious right choice.
I was a single teen mom and yeah it was hard and sometimes I felt like I was missing out on things.but my son was the best thing that happened to me. I was living a lifestyle that could have killed me. WHen I found out I was pregnant I quit everything I was doing. I really think my son saved my life. That was 10 years ago. I now have 7 kids and my life is great. There are days when I wonder how the heck I am going to make it thru.(try having 6 sick kids at one time!) But my life is full of love. I relive my childhood every day through my kids. Taking them to the zoo and watching their expressions, or watching them take their first steps.there isnt anything better in this world. And I am living MY life to the fullest.
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my fulfilled life!
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