How Can I know If a girl is lying to me or not?!
Question: The thing is that I was chatting withthis girl for a while and we admitted that we love or atleast have feelinggs for each other She is from America and I am from India well she knows that too .Well then she asked me to come see her ,Well my studies are still going and I dont have enough money also but i do want to go and see her.I discussed the matter with my friends and they said that i was crazy.And adviced me that all american girls are like this
and that she was fooling me into this.But i still dont belive that she could ever do that!Cause she is so Pure!Well but the conversation with my friends have triggered me into a doubt.Could anyone Please Help Me! And also she says that she never had a boy friend in her life because she was afraid to confront a boy Face to Face Could this really Happen ins a country like America? But i Still Love Her and will find A solution to Meet Her.Well I am 17
and she is 18 .Please help Me...
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It is always tempting to believe all that you read in a nother person's letters. But to be honest with you, and I am a woman of experience, so I know, many girls enjoy the power of toying with a man's emotions.
You wrote:
And adviced me that all american girls are like this
This is not true, through there are many. This girl may indeed be very shy but I sincerely doubt it. She asks you to come to America to meet with her because she knows you can't afford the money, or time away from your studies. It is a safe request she can make to "prove" she cares about you and makes you look as if you don't care for her as much as she cares for you.
If she really cares for you, she would be trying to help find enough money to help pay for your flight over and back. Has she offered?
You wrote:
And also she says that she never had a boy friend in her life because she was afraid to confront a boy Face to Face Could this really Happen ins a country like America?
Yes, sadly we as a culture, grant status and love to the more attractive people. Those with less than perfect looks are often left to lonliness. She may be afraid of rejection.
Why not test her? Tell her you may have found a way to get the money. Ask her to set a date for your arrival. If she's overjoyed, she's sincere but if she makes a lot of excuses and refuses to set a firm date, then she's playing with you. You can explain later that you were unable to raise the money.
It is my advice that you find a girl closer to home. Long distance romances are painful and almost never work out.
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.. are her lips moving?
(sorry ladies! .. he set it up, I just had to knock it down.)
Seriously, though, it seems a bit extreme to come all the way to America to see an 18 year old girl that you've only chatted with. I don't believe that all American girls are this way, but I do think that it's a little too much to ask you to travel all the way from India at great expense to yourself both monetarily and emotionally. You will understand this a bit later, but this really is just a _girl_. If the two of you were older, and had really decided that you were _truly_ in love, then my answer would be much different. As it is, if I were you, I may continue to talk to the girl, but I wouldn't travel halfway round the world for her just yet.
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