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Question: Ive been with my sons dad for almost 6 years, Ive tried doing all I can for him , but yesterday he threw me and tried to strangle me in front of our 2 yr old son because I said I didnt love him anymore and never would the way hes been acting.I left and came out to my moms. He told me that I was taking away his family and that he wouldnt have done that stuff if I could just keep my big mouth shut. I am about 14 weeks pregnant and I dont plan on going back but I dont know what to say when he calls me up and tells me that Im taking away his familyand that his son is going to end up just like him if I dont let him see him.. All I wanted him to do was stop hanging out in the hood , dealing pot , and acting like a 15 year old hood rat. Hes gonna be 28 in july. I feel like I dont have words for him when he calls ..If he even does.
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My stepfather was sort of like that. He started out just being grouchy a lot then over time he kept getting worse and worse to the point that the police had to escort him to the local mental ward. From personal experience you can't talk or reason with someone like that. I would strongly advise that you go to the clerk of courts office and file for a protection order and include your children on it. I don't even want to think about what would happen to your baby when it's born if he's still around. If this is too much, then you can tell him that you're not coming back until he gets professional help and puts forth an effort to get better. (Although I really think your best bet is to do what's right and protect you and your children from him. I think your kids would be much better of being in a mentally stable home without their father than living in a mentally unstable stressful home.) Hope that helps.

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This is a difficult subject.
You need to seek professional advice.
I would start by calling your local government (look in the government section of the yellow pages) to find support and or a support group to help you work out these issues.

If he is violent, you should be careful about how you deal with this issue. I would definitely bring law enforcement into the mix, and you are risking yourself even more by not doing anything.

In order to protect your legal rights, I would consider filing a police report, else, "it never happened" as far as police and legal entities are concerned.
A restraining order might be a second step, if things are really out of control.

This is a hard subject, and I can see you are reaching out for help here. But this is not the place. All you will get for the most part, is silly retaliatory advice.

He appears to be a danger to you and your unborn child, and children. Any person who strikes out in violence is in need of help. Some can't be helped. In your situation you need to decide, based on what you know about him.

NOte, if he calls and asks you back, tell him you need time away, and that you think he needs to think about what is important in life.. His family or his Drugs/Friends.
Also, if reconciliation is in the plan, I would start over, almost from a dating standpoint, and bring the relationship around full force, after several months and also counseling.
Family counseling can be a big help, but he has to commit to it, and if he does, there may be hope.

Sorry this is long winded and I could add a bunch more, but I think you get the picture.
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This answer is nothing more than opinion, and I recommend you seek professional and legal help in this matter.
Say nothing. Make sure you raise your kids with better values then he was raised with. Get a restraining order against him.YOU OWE HIM NO EXPLANATIONS!
well u definatly need to keep your son away from him..if your son is around him he will turn out that his father, but keeping the negative away from your son will help him, keep your son around positive people who treat him and you good and respect you..are u married to this guy? u need to get a restraining order against him if he strangled you, so he has to stay away, file for child support and start your new life in a positive way.keep your head up, things will get better!
YOU NEED TO IMMEDIATELY LEAVE HIM. IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO LIVE ON YOUR OWN, GO TO AN EMERGENCY ROOM OR PLACE OF WORSHIP OR MUNICIPAL SOCIAL SERVICES AGENCY FOR REFERRAL TO A SAFE PLACE TO LIVE. YOU CANNOT SUBJECT YOURSELF NOR YOUR CHILD TO THE DANGER THIS MAN PRESENTS.

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