Experience and circumstances have turned me fatalistic, i want to build my will!


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Don't give up. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Things will get better. No matter how bad things seem right now, they will get better. Don't give up. Don't give up. Don't give up. Don't give up. Don't give up. Please don't give up.

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Details would help, a lot.

I assume that by fatalistic you mean suicidal. I want to help you, but I don't know what's exactly driving you to suicide. Here are some guesses:

1.) You feel that no one cares about you.

Take a moment to think about each of your friends, people that you suspect of not caring for you. Ask them to send you a detailed paragraph of all the things they find most appealing in you that are not superficial. Say it's for a project. Now this is a tough question, because it may turn out that your suspicions are true: you really haven't any close relationships. Never think for a moment that you are alone. People across the world find it difficult to build friendships and are very lonely. To prove it to you, type "i am lonely" into google, and click the first link. I would dare to guess even that the happy, outgoing, popular people you feel are all around you are actually a minority.

Only you can do something about being lonely, and it will take more effort and committment than anything you have ever done in your life. You have to actively seek to socialize with people and make friends, no matter how scared or shy you are. You'll learn from mistakes, and especially become confident and build strong relationships.

2.) You've suffered some kind of loss, romantic or otherwise. What's most important right now is that you find a friend who's willing to hold you and sympathize with you. If there isn't anyone, then you have to occupy yourself with something you enjoy, something active. If you are so depressed you can't even commit to this, than just get out of the house. Nothing feels better than mother nature. Wake up early in the morning and take a walk at some local park. Chat up some people you meet. You will feel better, but the pain will be back. You have to eventually move on, you can't dwell on this person forever. That's not to say you shouldn't appropriate some time to mourn him or her - that's natural, but don't make it an obsession. You want to be happy, so don't burden yourself with his or her loss.

if it's something else, rephrase your question with details, please. hope this helped :).
Certainly, without details it is difficult to answer this question well.

Your phraseology reminds me of something from my past now, so hoping that you aren't the suicidal type, I go back to the only time in life I felt and used the word specifically, 'fatalistic'. It was about a relationship and the relationship WAS hopeless. I thought it was fated that this guy was my one and only soul mate and it was unreasonable to think of anything otherwise, no matter how it was with that relationship. Luckily, somebody gave me enough coffee to wake up from that nightmare. ;D

All you need to do is understand free will. All humans are blessed with it. We always have the ability to make choices and think our ways around and over obstacles that keep us from whatever we really want. Zap out the negative in your life. That is what I had to do. There were (and always are) negative circumstances and people that make fate seem likely if we are lazy and let it rule us that way. But, I avoid negativity as much as possible. I have even learned how to block some of it out (amazing myself). I try my best to focus on the positive things and keep my eyes on the prize *my goals* so that I continue to work on attaining them.

Another good thing to do to get out of that fate slump is to focus on helping others. Oftentimes, when we reach out to help others, we realize there are other people out there in worse circumstances than ours and life is not so bad after all.

However, if your needle is just really stuck on the negative, nothing can ever be good day after day and in all of the world everything is fatalistic, disasters, wars, relationship problems, AIDS, poverty, etc. YES, go do something to help in even a small way and you may feel better. or go see your healthcare professional. Maybe you need to increase your serotonin level.

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