how can i have safe sex for first time? its painful?!
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Take your time and relax. Best to be somewhere you are comfortable and won't be disturbed. Make sure you indulge in lots of foreplay like touching and kissing and stroking. When you are ready and not before every thing should just fit together perfectly. If you are concerned about it being difficult you can use a good water based lubricant to help things along, just don't use oil as this will weaken the condom.
And always always ALWAYS use protection. You can get pregnant the first time or if you do it standing up no matter what anyone says and you do not want to catch any STD let alone HIV. So if he says no way you say the same thing back. No Condom No Sex. Simple.
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Not as painful as dying of aids idiot!
try the pill becos its discreet, or u culd use a diaphrym but i fink the better option is the pill. :)
Use protection always. No it is not painful. It might sting a little but that goes away during the act.
To have safe sex for the first time make sure you have condoms, and be on the pil or any type of protection. It hurts some people the first time but not as bad as you think.
use a condom. and it will hurt the first time - but it will start to feel good also.
Don't have sex at all is the safest. But if you are going to do it, use birth control pills or get on Depro Provera. Check with your local Planned Parenthood.
If you and your partner trust one another enough not to rush and you can allow your muscels to relax, then you should be ok. If it hurts you tell him/her to stop.
Condoms. Yes it is painful, but not as bad as you think. Just make sure you're ready, physically, mentally and emotionally. Don't let yourself be pressured. If you are doubtful, than that is probably because you aren't ready. Listen to yourself.
lubricated condem, if that don't work use extra lubricant like ky. The 1st time may be painfull but at least you'll live a healthier sex life
First it is best to be alone. Then be careful.
I hope you're not asking as he's sticking it to you! Too late, if that's the fact. But to answer: KNOW your partner. It isn't enough for him to be cute, sweet, talk nice and give you promisses that he's clean. You need PROOF! Otherwise, you have to make him wear the glove. Yeah, I know, guys "forget". Too bad. No glove, no love. If you have to have a loser like that, YOU bring the rubbers! And YOU put it on him! And he'll whine that it dulls the sensation. Tough! If you two get to know each other well enough, and decide you want to have kids, then he can dow without the love glove. And if he disrespects you so much that he says he just can't do it with the rubber - tell him to f*ck off and get another boyfriend! You don't need a self-centered jerk to bust your cherry!
There is a female condom, but they're not as sure protection as the male condom. But they're better than going at it bareback!
1. a smooth non-textured condom.
2. if having difficulty gettin it in there, just add LUBE.
3. bleeding the first time is normal but not painful.
4. i don't reccomend having sex before 18 yrs of age, but that's just me. I'm old fashioned.
Use a condom and an extra contraceptive like birth control spermicide, or an IUD. It's not always painful, my first time wasn't painful.i didnt bleed and i only hurt at the beginning but i think that was from not being aroused enough. Be careful and have fun!
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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SAFE SEX. All sex has risks like pregnancy, STD's etc. Condoms don't protect from certain diseases (genital warts, HPV, Herpes, etc) and hormonal drugs have bad side effects.
Most importantly, think about your heart. Your first time is supposed to be a special forever bonding between two committed (married) people. Anything else brings on negatives like the health risks and a broken heart.
Don't ruin it for the person you're supposed to really be with forever to do it with the person you're with now. Trust me. It could also hurt your current relationship if you really care about the other person.
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