Does anyone have advice for a person considering a relationship with someone wit!
Question: I am having a difficult time getting comfortable with the fact that my girlfriend has HSV I and II(and I do not). I am afraid, knowing that if I choose to stay in this relationship, I will eventually end up getting it as well.and there is no way to know how my body will react to the virus'. Right now I am viewing the virus as a magnifying glass that makes small concerns seem like larger ones, because it is a huge commitment just to try to see if the relationship will be successful. The relationship would already have more than normal amounts of stressors because of geographical issues(I'd have to move a long distance to be with her) and other reasons. We have been doing the long-distance dating which is great, but distance makes the heart grow fonder as well. I feel like a very bad person for having these feelings, but I'm trying to get a grasp on things, so please help if you have any insights.
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I agree with the last answer but wanted to say one thing. I was in a similar situation as you and knowing that my girlfiend had HSV 2 I decided to stay with her. I used a condom for several months and never got it. Recenlty we got engaged and have been having unprotected sex. I now have the HSV 2 virus and to be honest with you, I really never ever think about it. I honestly don't see what the big deal is. I get an OB maybe once very 3-4 months the size of a pea on my inner thigh..I put a bandaid on it, take medicine and it's gone in a couple of days. It doesn't affect my life in any way and I feel like the luckiest person alive for having my fiance. I would have done the same thing 1000 times over again. So I guess the question you have to ask yourself is. do you love her and can you see yourself being with her forever..if so, I think the answer is very simple. If not, but you think the relationship has potential to be something great then you just have to be careful. The last thing I would do would be to not be with her because of this despite how you feel about her. By the way, you aren't a bad person for feeling this way. If anything you should be commended for researching more about it instead of running for the hills. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the best
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just calm down there are many relationships like this. be sure to always wear a condom, never have sex during an outbreak and I'm told that extreme stress can also trigger it. if she is taking her medication like she's suppose to then the main problem would be your state of mind. talk to a gyn. I have a friend with herpes she has had 2kids since. her husband nor her kids have it and life is just fine for her and him. now the long distance thing may actually be your biggest challange
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