What is the best way to treat my 12 year old grandson that lives with me and who!
Question: It seems like his body is changing and he is getting into the adolscent stage. He and his brothers have been living with us for about 3 years. His mom, my daughter lives with us also. I think he's learning more about his body and the changes boys go through at his age, but I had two daughters no boys, so I'm not good with this type of thing.
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If you daughter lives with you, she should be responsible for helping him through this awkward stage of leaving childhood and entering young manhood. If she feels uncomfortable maybe she could seek the advise of a Trusted male figure to help her get the answers she needs. I think it just takes patience and understanding and realize that he needs to know it's OK if he has questions or concerns. Somebody needs to be available for him to talk with and he needs to feel safe in doing so.
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With love.
Have the conversation with him.
please be the good example for them.set boundaries,respect
and train them well.don't forget praise for good tings too.
Don't worry to much about it. Kids figure out most of this stuff on their own. I'd wait another year and then give him the 'sex' talk, basically that should consist of scaring the bejeesus out of him about STDs and prenancy. Tell him he should always use a condom if he doesn't want to ruin his life.then let him figure it out.
I agree that you should treat him with love and be sure to give him boundaries and plenty of praise. You should also be sure he has consistency in his daily life to help him deal with the changes he is facing in his own body and with the absence of his father. As for the sex talk, it is my opinion that you should step back and let his mother handle it. After all, she is his mother and considering their situation they need to be able to have uncomfortable or difficult conversations. You also wouldn't want to alienate your daughter by taking over her responsibilities as a parent or create tension in your home by telling your grandson more than your daughter wants him to know.
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