My boyfriend cheated but i love him?!
Question: My boyfriend cheated on me with how many girls i don't know but i found out that i may have a diease that i can't get rid of but i love him and we have 2 kids together. WE have been together for 5 years and we do argue alot what should i do i really want to stay but should i keep trying to trust?HELP!
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Been there. Once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat! Would you rather you kids grow up in a home thinking that arguing and cheating is natural. If your unhappy you kid cant be happy. Those kids should come first. As for your trust you will NEVER be able to get back. You will always wonder when he goes to the store, you will constantly wonder. Is that how you want to spend your days. IF you are wondering all the time then when do you have the time to be happy. Once the trust is broken its gone FOREVER. You may be able to forgive but you will never forget. And if you can forget then you really havent forgiven.
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go to couples therapy!
If this is something that you want to do (why I have no idea) then try counseling. That would be the only way to understand why he does this to you. He obviously is missing something in life that he feels (and does) like he has to cheat.
ASK YOURSELF IS THIS WHAT I REALLY DESERVE OR WANT
if you still love him thats not right,he wasen't loyal,and women need that.
My girlfriend cheated on me too. I still love her. I always will. but I will never take her back either. I cant trust her.
no you shouldn't trust him anymore no matter what.
you have to leave him. it hard but you have to. for your own good. and for your kids too.
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Dump him. Take out the garbage
i would do whats best for you and your two kids i would leave him hurt as it will you will heal from that pain but ask yourself will you be able to deal with the pain he's putting you through day after day?
leave him.if you do then he might actually realize how good he has it having you and then stop cheating and you guys can stop arguing so much.
It would be hard to love someone who hurt you Emotionally and Physically.
2 kids, idk
LEAVE
do it for your kids
dont bring them up in this sham of a relationship
move on quickly
the kids will be better off in the long term as will you with out having this loser in your life
good luck
sounds like you made enough stupid mistakes already! get out of that situation and get on your feet , raise your kids and read this book! "10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives"
If you guys are willing to start from the beginning they yes you guys can work things out couple therapy is a good things. I personally think a person who cheats will always cheat and they wont change unless they accept their wrong doings and they change for themselves.
If you don't mind sharing him, stay. If you want to risk another disease stay. If you want better for yourself and your kids, leave. there are agency's that will help a single woman with kids.
Think of your children next time he may give you a disease that will kill you! Just walk away and never look back!
Just because you love him that does mean that you should be together. I may be hard at first, but I'm sure you can find someone else that you can truly be happy with. You have to ask your self some questions "is he worth it, am I happy?" If the answer to your question yes, stay with him and don't complain
I would agree with fuilui as far as couples therapy goes but it sounds like some individual therapy for you might help as well. It may benefit you to find out how and why you continue to want to be with him after he's treated you with disrespect and endangered your health. I bet if you became stronger in yourself, worked on your self esteem and realized that you are worthy of so much more it would be alot easier to move on and away from this hurtful relationship. That's what happened with me. Good luck and take care.
well im no love expert but it seems like this guy doesn't love u so if he doesn't love u leave him but first confront him about it if he admits then u know hes man enough to admit but not enough to no cheat (try this!) it should work
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Sounds very complicated to me! My ex husband cheated on me several times and he was very abusive. But because we had a kid and I thought I loved him I stayed for almost 5 years. But I finally figured out it was not love it was a dependancy thing. Even though life sucked at that time that was a life I had made for myself and we had a kid. I thought I loved him and it would get better but in honesty it was just a life I had adapted to and was scared of life and change!! Maybe you should think about that and figure out if its really love
honestly, your a fool for staying, you might love him but how he's cheating on you shows that he does not desurve your love or time. If you too have kids together and he still cheats on you, maybe even leaves you, how will the kids feel? how will you feel? It will be hard but you should leave him before you take that step with this type of guy.
Being with him was not a mistake. You have 2 beautiful children now. But STAYING with him would be a mistake. You face a lifetime of unhappiness and you will blame yourself because he will control you and make you feel inferior . which you are not. Use facts not feelings. It sounds like you are young. I allowed my self to stay in a bad marriage for 27 years for fear of being alone. When I felt in my heart that I would never be alone as long as I put my faith and trust in my higher power, He blessed me with an indescribable relationship. Move on.you're worth it.
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