I can't seal the deal in sex.?!
Question: I'm 47 and can keep an erection for a very very long time so I'm able to please my female partner easily, but for some reason I can't or don't orgasm anymore. I can from masterbating so I'm confused and worried. has this happened to anyone else? I'm single so this could cause a problem with a future mate.
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This obviously has a good side and a bad side. Your lasting power would make most of us envious! But, if you don't climax and you are frustrated, then it is an issue you want to deal with.
There is such a think as delayed ejaculation, where a man can't climax or climaxes with difficulty after a long period of time. But in these cases men want to climax sooner and can't.
You might want to talk with a urologist about this, and see what he/she says. It may be that a sex therapist might be helpful.
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Well are you on any kind of medication like Prozak? Prozak and some other medication can help males keep an erection for a long time but side effect is that its hard for them to get an orgasm. If so, consult your physician.
If you are medications that would have an effect, but it doesn't seem to after your erection. I would think that maybe you are not interested in this particular partner as seriously as you think. If it continues, discuss it with you doctor to see if there are any physical reasons. Sounds like a emotional/psychological issue.
Did you feel like maybe you might have had to go pee? One time my boyfriend and I had sex for 3 1/2 hours because he couldnt get off! It was great for me lemme tell ya! I had my say plenty of times! ;) But, we eventually gave up. At a later time, we figured out that if he's gotta go, then its gona keep him from getting off. Hope I can help.
Happens here too; makes her feel great but then makes her feel like she's failed. I suspect its from yrs of conditioning so as not to get her pregnant after she went off the pill.
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