Is it good to carry a grudge and be bitter?!
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Some people were rude to me several years ago, I am still carrying a grudge and still bitter about it. I want to return the favor by calling them all up and telling them that they are rude, I hate them and hope they get a terminal illness and die in a fiery car crash on their way to their medical treatments. It's not revenge, it's verbally cursing them.
Their have been another time in 2000 (he was rude to me in 1996), someone was VERY rude to me and I was actually planning on beating him up the next time I saw him. I knew his girlfriend, his girlfriend said "Hi" I said hi, he said
"Hi", then I took off running. I looked back the were looking like I was crazy. But I had to run, If I didn't I would have started beating him up.
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No, it's not good for you.
Holding on to anger is bad for your blood pressure and hardens your arteries. The more you are angry the more your body is waiting for the chemicals that signal anger, so you are more likely to feel angry at smaller things.
You need to vent this, and let it go.
Talk to a counselor or a friend about it, even a hotline if there is no one else. Or write out the history of the whole thing and all your feelings and then burn or flush the papers. (Don't clog your toilet with them, though.)
Get this grudge out of your heart and you will have the energy to go on and enjoy your life.
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Wow! So you still have a grudge. If I was you I would steal that kids girlfriend. Thats revenge. Make him start carrying your grudge and you get rid of it. Good luck with everything. If you want to Im me at yahoo messenger for more suggestions my messenger is nabaj22.
no it's not.will not get you anywhere.beating someone up will land you in jail .i dont think you want that.
A grudge is only going to consume your life, obviously they are not letting it bother them or keep them from being happy. holding a grudge is okay. for a rime..but honestly 10 years for someone being rude to you?..how bad could it have been..move on just keep them out of your life and you wont have to worry about him being rude anymore..move on dude IT"S OVER!
It takes a lot of energy to carry a grudge. If you don't like or care for these people, then why waste so much time and energy on them. Direct that time and energy toward people who make you feel good to be around.
You're only hurting yourself when you're carrying this type of grudge. You're wasting a lot of energy carrying this anger around. I suggest you let it go. You'll feel a lot better in the long term and it will be better for your health.
See a shrink!!You need help.
It's their victory if you constantly think about what they did to you while they've probably forgotten. You have to let these things go, anger and revenge can't solve any problems.
Dude, ask yourself "Who is being hurt by this grudge?" while you are looking in the mirror. The only person that is being damaged by carrying that load is the person staring back at you. It does nothing to the people that you are harboring resentment towards. They are getting on with their lives just fine. So, is it good to carry a grudge, NO WAY IN HE@$!.
It is a sure way to end up bitter and alone. If people are rude to you, just consider the source and then move on with your life. You will find yourself better able to have a loving relationship with the people around you if you don't hold grudges, even with those that don't treat you as you would like to be treated.
Look at all the energy that you are using focusing on them, they are controlling you still. I bet they have not thought one minute about how they treated you since then, because they are so focused on themselves. You can get very ill from holding on to all that anger and being so bitter. Try to feel bad for them for being such idiots and feel sorry for them and then let it go because without your help, the way they treated people badly will always catch up to them. It always does in ways you can't even dream of.
you shouldn't ..come on..they're winning..get over it.remember once you forgive..you give your heart more time to live.
It won't make you feel any better, you need to learn to control your anger. I would suggest an anger management course as it should help rid you of this grudge you have been carrying around for so long.
Holding a grudge is like carrying a heavy load with little strength and walking without direction, this load is invicible.you know it is there but no one else can see it. The person you have a grudge against is not harmed by it, so he/she does not care. You have nightmares and wake up suddendly from sleep. You have no peace of mind.you are a man with half a heart.forgiveness is divine and it is a healer fo many heart wounds, it is a balm of peace. Forgive and love despite all you have gone through and experience the greatest miracle ever, Joy. Grudge and bitterness are nothing to associate with.
You are so resentful!
The first thing you should know is that people actually treat you like that because you let it happen with your own attitude.
If you can learn from your mistakes instead of plotting to take revenge you´ll advance a lot.
Forgiving and Learning from your mistakes is the best you can do to fix your problem progressively.
If you keep all that grudge you´re only getting older, bitter and awkward.
No it's not good let ther grudge go
ok sweetie u need to calm down a lil bit. if u wish bad things like that on people that type of stuff will happen to u. i had that happen to one of my friends before.
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