My bf and I was thinking about this sexy "scene",but im having second!
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okay I'm 16(hes 19),a virgin,and have been going out with my bf for a little over 5mths but we actually were friends b4 dating?I really like him and together we have done things he has never done b4 and things I haven't(not sex-wise).He loves me SO much it's rediculous and i really do love him and every1 can tell ;how much he does and he talks about me 24/7and calls me 24/7.But his most recent thought of somethimg we have never done b4,is taking a bubble bath 2gether,he's talking candles,lights out the whole 9 yards.I'm skeptical bcause as said b4 I am a virgin and dnt want it to lead to anything else(which I know he wnt let it,but what about me(hello harmones!)),and it's only been in all 9 mths,what will he think of me,or will we get closer.Though he has proposed this,do yall think after he will look at me in a diff. manner.I know this is stereo-typing,he is a boy :(.Should I trust him,he has proven to be nothing but trustworthy n all he talks about is our future together,ect.help!
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If he truly loves you he will not care one bit if you tell him the truth- it is too risky to be in this situation. Please stay a virgin!! I got pregnant when I was only 16 and if I woukd have been a smart girl like you and thought things over my life would be much better right now.If you decide to go through with this just be sure you have condoms and talk to your mother!! it is much more embarrassing to tell about that have not yet happened than when something does happen.
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It is truly special your first time and this sounds to be your first true love it is something you will remember for a lifetime whether u get married or not. I don't recommend this to such a young woman but u will eventually do this at some point in your life. Don't let it be when u get to college and have a few drinks and a one night fling.
The bath together... bad, bad, bad idea...it's a seduction scene that's all that is..he makes it sound soooo romantic & oh no it wont lead anywhere else.. hah not much.
Are you seriously believing that he's going to get you naked, into a bath where he can touch you in a romantic setting & not try to push it further!!
Never happen, he's going to be all over you trying to get you to agree to sex.
listen to your heart, your first instincts are usually always right, if your not ready or uncomfortable doing that, which you sound like you are, then dont! there are plently of other things you can do, im sure if you miss the bubble bath its not the end of the row, your still just 16 and hes 19, there is a difference there he may be ready for that but your not.
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he sounds like a nice guy that will understand and he will, if hes worth it.
good luck hun!
Don't do it. To begin with, you're too young to start having sex. Besides that, although you "trust" him, boys are boys. 19 year old boys have three things on their minds: SEX, SEX, and MORE SEX. There's is no way he's going to "stop" things if things start to go too far. And once you have sex, that's it - you won't be able to take it back. And believe me, it will definitely change EVERYTHING!!
Im 16, I can tell that you and him care for each other. I dont think that its a good idea for you and him to take a bubble bath together. Youll both be naked, in the tub so there will be close contact(very close). It is possible that you will have intercourse because things will most likely lead to another. If you do not want to lose your virginity now I advise you not to take the bath together because things will start getting out of hand girl, believe me lol. If you are willing to take the risk of losing your virginity you can go ahead and do it. Just remember thou that you only have one virginity.
Good Luck with whatever you do!!
I say if you are unsure of yourself and you don't feel like you can trust yourself then DONT DO IT. If you are ready you're ready. Fallow your BRAIN and NOT your HEART!!
Don't do it! It very well may lead to doing something you will regret forever. Remember, once you do it, you can never take it back.
If he is suggesting this, he has other thoughts in mind. He's manipulating you. How do I know this? I am a guy. "All guys think with their .area." That is a stereotype for a reason; we do think that way.
My wife and I were each others first time. We were waiting for marriage but broke down 5 months before. I wish we would have waited if not for the symbolic gesture it would have implied.
Remember Attorney General Jocelyn Elders? There are other ways to assuage the urges.
If you are truly going to remain a virgin until marriage (and I recommend that you do), then don' put yourself in a position of vulnerability. Taking a bath together would make things very difficult to resist.
It's like the person who has sworn off eating chocolate cookies. Is it wise to go out and buy a big box of them (but tell yourself you're not going to eat them)? Well suppose I just open the box and smell them. Well, I'll just open the box to see them. Well, I'll just open the packaging..
Pretty soon you are gobbling down chocolate cookies and regretting it later.
Respect yourself, others will too.
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BTW, taking a bath is very romantic. If your BF is to be your husband someday, save this special idea for the honeymoon.
okay yo mama catch you don't say nothing or blam us
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Yo MAMA
My best advice: Don't put yourself in situations where as you'll feel uncomfortable. Just thinking of it makes you uncomfortable; so, imagine going through with it. If you do this, you make yourself vulnerable. This is his way of getting you out of your clothes because he's ready and doesn't want to say it. You have an answer from someone your age and she's telling you not to do it. Listen to what she's telling you.
If you decide to go with the flow, make sure you have a condom close by just in case.
You should have a long heart to heart talk with your mother and if U don't like what she has to say, then your father.
Being only 16, and you don't want it to lead to anything else, why don't you just tell him to save the idea for another time, as you don't quite feel ready for that step yet. If he loves you he will understand.
Don't do it.
you're a very sensible girl for 16 and the guy sounds really mature as well.
I suggest you don't go for this yet.because it will eventually lead to something more and it will just make it harder for you to stop.so why start something you can't control later right?
talk to him,he sounds really cool and understanding.(unlike most sickos who just want sex day in and day out)
gluck sweets!
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