How can one overcome an avoidant personality (shyness caused by fear of public h!
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without having to seek therapy or anything like that?
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I would try to challenge your inner thinking patterns that encourage you to avoid social interaction. Science shows that you can change your brain chemistry by changing the inner dialogue that keeps you in your shell. You can start off with small steps ones that are invoke less fear and then slowly work your way up to the scarier situations.
Antidepressant medications have also proved useful for such cases. A good workbook that many benefit from is called Mind Over Mood, which uses a cognitive behavorial approach which has proven effective.
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dont humiliation/rejection her
alcholic beverages.
Talk to people and make friends that way you won't have to worry any more.
one idea (Ive had the same problem) I overcame it by pledging to introduce myself and befriend at least one new person a day. It kinda helped me come out of my shell a little back when I was in highschool
I don't know if this falls into "anthing like that", so here goes. read Albert Ellis.
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http://www.ship.edu/~cgboeree/ellis.html
There are lots of self help strategies. Read as much information as possible about what this condition is called and what the different treatments are. Some questions to ask yourself: how long have I been like this, when does it happen, is it person specific, place specific. If you want me to see if I can help, IM me or e mail me with as much information as you can
Try to do something very different from what you'd normally be comfortable doing- karoeke is a good example- but without any of your normal friends or family around. It's a lot easier to do this without people you know around, since even if you make a fool of yourself it's only "temporary" (you can tell yourself that no-one will ever know). After a few times, it gets a LOT easier to do!
This worked well for me. I used to be really, REALLY shy, but now I spend 2 nights a week with an amateur theatre company, doing musical shows. good luck!
Hmm, good one. I developed that a couple years ago, and I'm not REAL sure why. I used to do an Improv comedy show at my college and I DON'T remember being vey shy then, so I'm at a loss. I just moved to New York and I thought that would help out byway of there being so many people, that I would just get over it, but that hasn't exacly happened yet. As a matter of fact, I was outside having a ciggarette a little while ago, and I felt like I was having a mild panic attack just being out in the crowds on Broadway. I hate it, I don't know where this came from. I've really tried to figure out the root issue (guilt, past bad experiences that I've closed off) but I can't seem to shake it. I don't have the money involved in getting this checked out, so I have to deal with it. It's sad that I'm reluctant to initiate with people just because of some things in my past. It's crap. That's not much of an answer, but..
do consider yourself as most important person give importance to u than others
Paxil is a good med for social phobias, but if you don't want meds , try to find someone where ever you are that also looks shy eg. at class work etc. and talk to them to help make them more comfortable , this takes your mind off of yourself and on to helping someone else and your helping overcome your fears at the same time. Also it helps to think that everyone else is really in their own little world , thinking about other stuff , just going about their lives. No one really cares or notices what you are doing.
I feared being alone
until I learned to like myself.
I feared failure until I realized
that I only fail when I don't try.
I feared success until I realized that I had
to try in order to be happy with myself.
I feared people's opinions until I learned
that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection
until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain until I learned
that it's necessary for growth.
I feared the truth until
I saw the ugliness of lies.
I feared life until
I experienced its beauty.
I feared death until I realized
that it's not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny until I realized
that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate until I saw
that it was nothing but ignorance.
I feared ridicule until
I learned how to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old until
I realized that I gained wisdom every day.
I feared the future until
I realized that life just kept getting better.
I feared the past until
I realized that it could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark until
I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light until
I learned that the truth would give me strength.
I feared change until I saw
that even the most beautiful butterfly
had to undergo a metamorphosis
before it could fly.
If you want to take your mission in life to the next level,
if you're stuck and you don't know how to rise,
don't look outside yourself. Look inside.
Don't let your fears keep you mired in the crowd.
Abolish your fears and raise your commitment level
to the point of no return, and I guarantee you
that the "Champion Within" will burst forth
to propel you toward victory.
~ Author Unknown ~
find a way to work with children they bring out the true you because they don't judge .once you are confotable with them go to a higher age of kids. You will learn to talk in a mild mannered way and the self confidence come running out.
ooh! take karate! that helped me!
Paxil, is an antidepressant that was also developed for social anxiety. I have seen it work very well for people.
paxil works for me. or alcohol. self medication isnt really the best way though.
When you decide that you want social connection more than the security of solitude, and are ready to pay the price, you will come out of your shell. For me, it happened in eighth grade. I didn't have to seek therapy, I just had to grow up and realize my life was in my own hands.
you need your self confidence.
One step at a time. It's like learning to walk, or learning to run. All require braveness and strength of the mind.Find your confidence and comfort zone, and the rest will follow.
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