how do you tell a sensative friend that she has hygiene problems?!
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i have a friend who smells funny. her house is a pig sty, she admits she dont take baths everyday.not even every two days.which is gross but she cant comprehend that logic. all of my other friends talk about her really bad n to top it off she isnt attractive at all. i wanna tell her about herself but i dont know how to without hurting her feelings. any advice??
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I disagree with beating around the bush. I think the direct approach is the only way. People get that way because others, including loved ones, have always sugarcoated things. If someone seems oversensitive it's because they have learned that being that way keeps others from intruding into their comfort zone. If you really care, be honest and constructive with your friend. If it's done in love any momentary damage to her feelings will be healed a hundred fold by a greater sense of worth when she realizes how much you care.
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try to tell her in a nice way. try not to tell her directly.
maybe the first, u take her walking and lunch n then u talking about everything, bout ur self, bout ur daily activities, n hope she will feel something wrong with herself.. ok. hope u can try it. n god luck then
i dont know if there is an easy way to tell her that. you could bring it up really casually, maybe just randomly joke about deodorant and showers..? actually nevermind..that would be retarded. make sure you keep an open mind though. a lot of grunge rockers have big ideals about the way they look and smell. i dont know if shes grunge, but if she is she might get in your face about being a brainwashed capitalist and a conformist and.. (just be careful, those grunge kids can get intense if you're not careful!) im a grunge type and we're not really clueless about hygiene, we do it for a reason. good luck with your situation though!
you get in the bath tub with her. make sure you use plenty of soap and get that webcam rollin'!
Tell her what others have been saying about her.Maybe that will encourage her a little.
You should buy her one of those gift baskets with the shower gel and lotion and all that in it, make sure its a really good smelling one, one that you may want to keep for yourself, but don't, then tell your freind how much you like it and that she should try it, and maybe you can hype her up so much that she'll start using it on a daily basis and even if she doesnt shower she'll have the other stuff to cover up the funk.
Regardless of whether your friend is sensitive or not, it's imperative that you inform her of your feelings as far as her hygiene is concerned..it not only affects her, but those around her. Rather than let a stranger tell her, without being concerned as to her feelings, it would be better if she had someone that was close to her as a friend tell her. If she's sensitive, then it's obviously due to a lack of self esteem and that has a direct correlation with why she has been neglecting her appearance, hygiene, and environment around her..all those, are also a sign of depression. You also have said that she wasn't very attractive and that her other "friends" make fun and talk about her behind her back.well, I'm no rocket sceintists..but I'm thinkin that she'd probably be much better off without any friends, rather than keep a "friendship" with those who have no understanding of what a friendship is. No wonder this poor girl is in such a state! As to the "unattractiveness" of this girl.."beauty is in the eye of the beholder", whether she's attractive or not, shouldn't be the issue. I doubt that she's had any guidance or training as to taking care of herself and her home. Possibly, if you approach her by saying, hey, I've got this magazine at home that has a hairstyle that would look great on you.. Or, get her a little basket of soap varieties, with some lotions (scented), and a couple of small shampoos, and maybe even ad a small little candle, just tell her that you thought that she might like it, by adding that these are your favorites. That's a subtle way of giving her a hint, without hurting her feelings. As to her home.that can be touchy, but just be blunt with her. If you hurt her feelings, then so be it, but even if she says that it doesn't bother her and that it's her home, blah, blah, blah, that it's none of your business. Just tell her that you would be more than happy to help her clean it up, but if she refused your help, then in the same token, just refuse to go to her home.telling her your reasons why. Sometimes, the only way to be, is, blunt. She's either aware and doesn't have consideration for those around her who have to suffer because of the odor, or she's just uninformed as to personal hygiene. I think if I were you, I'd just tell her, but first I'd try to hint around a little, but if she didn't clue in on that..then I'd just be matter of fact with her and if she got hurt feelings, well, I guess I'd rather her be hurt and mad at me, than having people talk about me behind my back or possibly having a stranger say something very unkind.
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