is there anything worng with me?!


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ok i was wondering if there is anythin wrong with me cuz i dont know. my dad expects me to be perfect and yells at me all the time for no reason (i got yelled at because my grade in math dropped from an A to an A-). he is forcin me to play a sport that i hate when all i want to to is dance. and lately i have been thinking that im fat because all the other girls on my dance team are skinnier than me. im jus not happy with my self anymore and i even cut myself for bout 2 weeks b4 mi best friend caught me and forced me to stop. i told her what was bothering me and she says that is no reason at all and wont admit that i might have serious problems. is this jus a phase im goin thru or do i have a realli big problem?
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Your dad is putting too much pressure on you, and I bet he's trying to live through you. Maybe he's trying to get you to be the kind of kid he never could be. No matter - you have to be yourself. Talk to him. Calmly and without crying or getting mad. Tell him what you want to do, and ask him to cut you some slack.
Don't hurt yourself by doing things like cutting. That doesn't solve the REAL problem in your life. It just makes you forget for a while. You've got to deal with the real issues.
And about your weight. If you are a dancer, I guarantee you look great. So what if some people's bodies look differently? When I was in high school I thought I was too fat, but now that I'm grown with kids, I wish I had that body back!! (haha)
Just remember this from your pal PMS-24-7 = Youth Is Beauty. You'll understand that when you're older.
Talk to your dad. He may not even realize what he's putting you through.

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necessaraly it just means all the other girls are skinny.
Don't worry it is probably just a phase;)

Girl ur dad is puting to much on you talk to him and do wath you love and lisent to ur friends they know when you are in troble. dont lose pounds because of others do it only 4 your health

alot of people go through the same types of problems and all you can do is deal sometimes. life is gonna be hard sometimes and cutting and self harm are not gonna help the situation.. i think the media has in some ways glamorized and made such behaviours acceptable and seem as tho they are solutions.THEY ARE NOT!GET HELP

Sweeheart, take it from an old man. Talk to your Dad, tell him you fears, what bothers you and about hurting yourself. I knew someone that sounds a lot like you. She killed herself. I'm not saying you are anywhere near that, but I didn't believe Amber was either. If you just can't talk to Dad, try a school counselor, a clergyman, anyone you can trust and will listen to you, but PLEASE talk to someone.

Go see the counselor at school. It's a safe place to talk with good advice. They can help you because I'm sure that they have dealt with this before. Good luck, honey. And remember.nothing lasts forever & this too, shall pass.

If you are having these feelings, then not only is there something wrong, but you are right for worrying about them. What seems minor to one person is major to another. If you are at the point where you are hurting yourself to ease the pain of these other problems, it is time to go get help. If your dad is being a problem, which they usually are at that age, go to someone else. I don't recommend your friend since she didn't seem to care much, so I would try a counselor at school, a community center with some kind of counselor, or see if you can meet someone on line who does counseling over the net. DO NOT LET THIS GO!! You need some kind of help to get you through these feelings. Find someone, anyone who you can trust and talk to to work things out. If you need to talk and can't find a professional, drop me a line and I will do my best to help you. Good luck!!

Never trouble trouble till troubles you. Until then, keep quiet and be happy!

Dont cut your self I was doing that and I lost something very inportent to me my bf. Yeah some parents are hard on there childern. just because they want them to get somewhere in life and not be a bum on the couch. and some are sports freks lol yeah. they just want you to get somewhere in life and reamber dont cut yourslef that is bad it leaves scars and alot thet crap
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