Who and how does someone deal with a wife that has depression?!
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depression wife
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When depression strikes, the depressed person isn't the only one affected. Everyone around them -- family, friends, and co-workers -- feels the impact.
Helping a loved one cope with depression can be key to his or her recovery. But it isn't always going to be easy. Here are some tips.
Get the facts. The first thing you should do is learn more about depression. Read up on its causes and treatments.
Get other people involved. You can't do this alone. Your friend or loved one may want you to keep his or her depression a secret. But that isn't healthy. It puts far too much pressure on you. So try to get a small circle of family and friends to help. That way, you can help look after your loved one together.
Ask what your loved one needs. Be direct. Unless you ask, you just won't know what your friend or loved one wants from you.
Don't try to solve the problem on your own. Your loved one needs professional help to get better. Depression is a real illness. You wouldn't try to cure a friend's diabetes on your own. You shouldn't try curing depression either.
Offer to help with the practical things. People who are depressed are easily overwhelmed. Everyday stuff -- dressing the kids for school, grocery shopping, or laundry -- may feel like too much. So pitch in. Sometimes practical help can make a big difference.
Take time for yourself. Taking care of someone who is depressed can be overwhelming. So it's key that you set aside time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Get out of the house on a regular basis. Take walks or go to the gym. Catch a movie or dinner with friends.
Given what your loved one is going through, you may feel guilty or selfish for thinking about yourself. But taking care of yourself is crucial. If you don't, you'll burn out -- and that won't help either of you.
Know your limits. There is a lot you can do to help your loved one. But you can't do everything. You can't make your loved one well. You can't watch him or her 24 hours a day. These things aren't in your power. In the end, your loved one has to want to get better, too.
Take threats seriously. Suicide is a very real risk of depression. If your friend or loved is threatening to commit suicide, take action. Don't leave the person alone. Remove any weapons or large amounts of medication. Call a suicide hotline or your loved one's therapist. In a crisis, don't hesitate to call emergency services. You can't keep something this serious a secret.
I hope that helps, all the best to you and your wife!I went through a bout of depression, but didn't really tell my friends: I knew that they would say 'just cheer up!' or 'just don;t think about it' or 'snap out of it'. Those are actually the worst things you can say to someone who is depressed, as it makes them feel even worse that they cannot make themselves 'snap out of it'. I would advise you just to be there for her to talk to and do things with. and don't give up on her!
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It's very difficult. I dealt with if for four years. In the end I lost the marriage. She decided she wanted someone else to solve her problems. That never happened for her.
ME? I suffered greatly because of her depression. My biggest mistake was tending to all her needs and to neglect my own needs. You need support too. Find it and be sure to take advantage of it.
Depending on what is causing her depression, will make understanding more or less, or even impossible to deal with. Don't be impatient. Impatience will only worsen matters. Let her know that you still love her and will ALWAYS love her and be there with her when she needs it.
I recommend seaking professional help and try to do little things here and there to affect her mood. Try opeing the windows to allow light into the rooms, happy music, over all try creating a positive environment. Because little things like that affect how you feel. Also try to add a little pizaz here and there.
First off you need to understand depression. There are many reasons for it. A horomone in balacne, stress can even cause this. We all have a copeing mechanizam, when that is overwhelmed it causes depression. Medication can help to deal with the situation, but will not remove the problems. So it is as simple as seeing your regular Dr and telling them so they can proscribe something to help. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help, not asking is weakness.
How do I know. My love and I both have depression and we have 4 bioplar kids. I know just a little about it LOL.
Hugs Kim Lynn
don't tell her to "snap out of it", don't patronize her, don't take it personally, don't try to "cheer her up." Leave her alone. Tell her you are available 24/7 for anything she needs. Tell her if she decides to seek treatment, you will support her 100%. Tell her you love her, tell her she's beautiful, tell her you'll never leave her. It has to be her decision to seek help. You can gently steer her in that direction, but you can't make the decision for her. I am a diagnosed manic depressive and i sincerely wish someone had given the advice i just gave you to my husband.
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