What do you do to be more self confidant?!
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I t ha sbeen brought to my attetion latly that I am serisoly lacking in the self esttem / self confidance department. Wel I have always known, but it has been an issue latly. What do you do to cain confidance? How do you become a more cofident person. I know if I had more confidance, I could be so much more.What do you suggest. I know that self confidance is something that you cannot buy or just gain over night, but I rally need to start gaining mopr e confidance before i go of to college and am on my own with out my best frinds and family. Ihope this is the right catogory.i had no clue what to place it with. Tell your friends!
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Simply believe in yourself. You could do anything just as good or better than any other person, if you really wanted to.
Take TV commercials for example, you've seen some pretty stupid ones before, right? And you probably thought, "I could do a better job than that!"
And more than likely, you could!!
And so it is, with most everything.
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Proper spelling. That's all you need!
I have a daughter around your age. Be firm with your
beliefs, do fun good things, join clubs at college.
People admire a good person and it makes you strong.
You are on the right road we all have doubts/
Don't care what others think about you, and don't be scared to make a mistake or look like a fool. It is like the nike commercials say, "Just Do It."
dont let what others say put you down. and just believe in yourslef. it helps a lot!
Think about past success. If you act like you have it you probably do. Also learn some new skills, read a book on Self Image, it could be something as simple as retraining yourself to think of things in categories other than black or white.
Another thing to do is look people in the eyes when you speak to them. If you can't muster that up, look at their eyebrows when you talk to them.they won't be able to tell the difference.
You are already on your journey towards more self-confidence by asking your question in this forum.good for you.
Go get em!
try smiling at everyone you look at or that look at you. But don't give out the serial killer eyes or too long smiles..
i think that you should start small. get a few friends together, and do things you normally wouldnt do, tell a joke or something. after a while, you might get used to it, and you could make the group bigger. then if you are feeling very confident like i do:) you could go to Wal-Mart, and talk to random strangers. you will begin to realize that everyones opinion doesnt really matter. just like right now, as you read this, you can take my advice or forget all about it. its your choice.confidence isnt everything:)
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Be your own best friend. Be good to yourself. Tell yourself you're the best--all the time. And most of all, tell yourself you don't care what other people think of you. Find something you're good at and whenever you feel insecure remind yourself that you're the absolute best at it--even if it's just vaccuming the floor! Just remember to be your own cheerleader. We can't count on other people--only ourselves. Take the plunge and do whatever you want. The worse that can happen is it won't work out. You'll get a learning experience from it. Next time you'll be more prepared. Always remind yourself 'it never hurts to try' and 'it never hurts to ask.' Most of all, only surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. Dump the people who bring you down.
Believe in yourself even when no one else does. Look at yourself in the mirror and say something confident as often as you can. Especially in the morning!!
I have had the same issues, and I still struggle with them on a daily basis. I have AWESOME friends and a great boyfriend who is supportive and loving and wonderful. That helps. Find friends who focus on your strengths and the positive things about you, not ones who tear you apart.
Pick things about yourself that you like, and focus on them. Do you have skills that make you valuable at work/school? Focus in and develop them further. If you have a skill that you can share, join a volunteer group. Doing good deeds for other people will boost your self esteem instantly.
Self confidence comes from within. You have to tell yourself that you're a good person, a smart person, talented, etc. Look in the mirror and focus on things you like about your appearance. Ignore the things you don't like, don't dwell on them, and work to fix them if they're fixable. (And I found out, freckles aren't all that fixable.)
Do not listen to negative people. They'll do you no good, and cause more harm. If someone tries to point out what they see as a "problem" you have, tell them "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I don't agree."
Keep a small group of people whose opinions you truly believe and value, people who have you and your bests interests in mind. Listen to them, and no one else.
You'll be fine, self confidence usually improves with age, as you mature, and surround yourself with positive role models.
Good luck, and feel free to contact me if you like.
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My Life.such as it is.
Challenge yourself with small things and work up to larger goals (but keep them attainable) so that you can see what you've done and make sure you give yourself credit for the things that come naturally to you as well as the things you have to work hard on to improve.
Also try to accept the criticism of those who want to put you down about the things that you aren't terrific at as the BS that it is. Know that while you may not be the exceptional speller or typist that your critic is, you are going off to college and you will be better for asking and for having an open mind.
Use of spellcheck might keep certain people from thinking they are better than you, but then there will always be small minded people who have high self esteem based on their ability to do some things easily that are more difficult for others.
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Feel free to pick apart my spelling, grammar, typing, and punctuation if that makes you feel better.
accomplish things. plan organize, deliver. do good things, help people.
Gaining self confidence is not easy. Not easy at all.I think first of all you should do some deep soul searching. Find out why you have low self esteem in the first place. If it's your look change it. If it's fixable you can fix it, it's all in how far you are willing to go.
Another thing you may want to do is, find some things that you are good at and become better, and find some things that you are bad at, and become good at those too. No one is perfect, and all you have to do is be happy with yourself and what you have the ability to do, and once you are happy with yourself, that will show and other people will start to feed off of your good vibes, which will give you an even bigger boost of self confidence.
But you also need to remember, that once you do finally like yourself, and what you have become, don't let it get to out of control, and NEVER become a person that views themselves as better than those around you.
start with accepting who you are. Start loving yourself. Realize that you are a interesting person. Change the things you can change and forget the things you cant. Self confindance comes from within you ,and only you. You cant buy it. What are your hobbies? what can you offer has a human being .. You have to have SOMETHING your good at. everyone does. Im sure you do. Think about that for a bit. Try not to waste your life thinking about something your not or want to be. Good Luck!
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