I think there's something wrong with me.HELP?!
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I'm only 15 years old but I feel like im in my early 20s. I'm really intellectual and like to have deep, thoughtful conversations with people. I love being a teen and having fun as one but I can never truly act as one, all bubbly or whatever. I see high school boys as extremely immature and desperate for relationships and high school girls as naive. I am constantly analyzing myself and others, why we behave that way or look that way. And I even tend to be attracted to twenty something year olds. Sometimes I even catch myself thinking about professions, my future kids, incomes, my parents' retirement. Whats wrong with me? Why am I so different?
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There is nothing wrong with you.people mature at different ages. Most high school boys ARE immature. Most high school girls are naive. You just need to find some people at school that are more on your level - they are out there. Try to stay away from dating guys in their 20s though.at 15, regardless of your maturity, it's bad news. Maybe look for guys around your age who are more mature, or maybe someone just a couple years older who are also mature for their age. Don't worry though.people will catch up to you and you wont feel so out of place :)
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you're not that differnt. plenty of people are like you, i myself included. most adolecent's intelects just didn't develope as fast
Nothing is wrong with you. I think you just romanticize the fact that one day you will be able to make the decisions you cannot now. As for looking at friends and peers as though they are immature?: maybe you are sick of people pretending something they are not. Some kids mature faster and more efficient than others. Take the time that is necessary for you and you only. Don't worry about other peers!
There is nothing wrong with you. People are just different. Could partly be the way you were raised but it is not a bad thing. Just so long as you don't actually grow up to fast. Keep on having fun like you said you were and you will be fine.
Nothing is wrong with you at all! I was the same way, 15 going on 40, that type of thing. You will always see people your age the same, until you meet some that will prove their immaturity levels wrong. Sadly, or happily (lol), you will probably be like this always, because I have continued to be like this. I am now in my late 20's and I still cannot really relate to people my age.
One word of caution: Do not hook up with an older guy when you are too young just because he is older. It will get old, pardon the pun. I met my fiance when I was 20 and he was 34. It was a great match and still is, except he is dealing with 41 year old man issues, while I am still enjoying law school and my life in general.
Don't try to grow up too fast, but just go with it. Good luck, and do not try to be too smug or arrogant with people your age. That will only alienate you more and will create hostilities that you do not want to deal with in High School. Just think: in a few years you will not have to deal with these people, unless you choose to do so. :o)
You are just a little mature for your age and thats perfectly ok. Your friends will catch up with you in a few years. Till then you,ve got a head start so enjoy it just be a little carefull of the twenty somethings for the time being.
Your mature, and posible anxious, you need a friend to talk about deep things with and the bubbling stuff can interlace. Your a kid, so don't date the 20 somethings. There are plenty of people like you your age, although you have to look hard; to befriend, talk to, and when your ready date.
hey grl, there is nothing wrong with u!! u seem to b just like i was at ur age! wen i was 15 i was dating a 25yr old. of course it didn't work out tho (i was still more mature than he was.) I'm now 21 settled into a long term relationship for ova 4yrs with a baby. keep ur mind on track and aim high. u can go as far as ur mind lets u in life! it takes a lil bit of hard work to succeed but its worth it in the long run. don't grow up too fast tho u will tend to regret it. just keep ur eye on the ball. good luck with life and follow ur heart.
Well this thing about having the thought ful converstaions and stuff: that's just because you're mature and really like knowing how things work and like, what people are thinking. You seem to have a kind of philospohers mind. What you observe about highschool kids is most likely true. Your just very mature and you need to find people your age that are like you, which I understand may be difficult. Perhaps you may worry about your future too much, or you could be so bored with life that you want to speed ahead to what seems new and exciting. Why? Could be your upbringing. Perhaps youir parents or whoever brought you up treated you not as a child but an adult. You tend to be attracted to older people because they are intellectually more like yuo and have wisdom that you hunger for. I think. If you really find this to be a serious problem, you should seek a psychologist.
Now you know exactly how I feel and there is nothing wrong with you, You are just intelegent! (I'm the same age and do just about the same thing), Although I catch myself thinking like I'm 30 and I see adults as immature and ignorant as well. I think you should just ignore it as I have, try to make friends with older people, and meet other intelectuals, you can even e-mail me sometime and we can chat about somthing deep like that if you want, I enjoy a good chat every once in awhile. Thing is most of the boys your age are immature they're freshmen and sophmores, they don't know how else to act, try to get into somthing like psycology, law, or Information Technology, it'll keep you analyzing things constantly. Music and art is also a great place to stick yourself they challange your brain to think in diffrent ways. Me personally I get bored extreamly easy so I have to keep finding things that interest me, usually I choose people or the way they interact with eachother or their religions, it's interesting, it doesn't make you weird or diffrent and you should worry about it :)
wanna make out.
Well.you know nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you feel the need to express your isolation from your peers.and on some level boast about your maturity 9nothing wrong with that). You are mature. that's all there is to it.
I'm sorry there is no actual problem, sometimes it's be a lot easier if it was an issue.then you could "fix" it and go on with your life.
Find friends who are a little bit older, and get to know people better.there are other teens who analyze themselves and their future.they just don't say aloud to everyone.as you probably don't.
Starting a blog, or whatnot is a good way to write all those thoughts and ideas down. That's how I've done it.for a year, since I was 12. Just be careful, there are a lot of sexual offenders and whatnot on the net.so don't put any personal information.but you already knew that.so let me shut up.
i do not think u are really abnormal but unique
in that u see things in a different way and it may be
this fact that will be the driving force behind ur
success in the future. sounds like u will be ready to
accomplish whatever u put ur mind too and be good at it.
keep on being u and everything will be fine.
note: it is good to be the way u r. stay away from
drugs and peers that will try to move u to be as they
are - keep ur uniqueness - have a great day.
Their is nothing wrong with you, except that you are more mature for your age. I was exactly the same way, I saw the boys in my high school and in other schools are immature little brats. I saw them as one of the kids I use to baby sit to. And their is nothing wrong with fantasizing.
Whoa.. calm down. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I think that it's awesome that you think and act maturely. I myself was like that at your age (I'm 21 now), always contemplating things and feeling disgusted with girls who were too ditzy. Yeah, high school boys are pretty immature. I guess I was lucky though since some of my closest friends by the end of senior year were guys (one of which was the valedictorian and is now in med school). Oh, but just so you know (or maybe you already have a hunch about this?), [whispers] some guys just never grow up. lol
This maturity will go a LONG way with you. I can see you as a very successful person.
Why are you different? Well, I don't really know about your case, but from my personal experience it could be your family. I grew up as an only child, and I suppose I had a lot of alone time to think about things, and I found conversation with older people much more stimulating than with those who were around my age. Maybe you take on like one of your older siblings? I don't know.
To sum it up, don't worry about "thinking" like you're older. that's pretty cool. Have fun in high school and be proud of who you are.
You are a grown up girl now. Don't worry cause there is nothing wrong with you. Many girls face such difficulty. you are more mature than the others. Thinking about your future is not a bad thing, but do remember that you have to concentrate on your self development (studies, health etc).
Being attracted towards a person is not bad, but try to avoid that because all people are not that broad minded.
..But try enjoying your teen to the fullest and be social with everyone even with the girls you don't like.
One of the way society controls people is by enforcing an extended childhood on them. Everywhere you go, it seems normal to be dependant and downright uncool to be smart, strong, able and responsible..even into your 20's or older. This is society trying to prevent you from gaining an advantage.
Some people, the brainwashing fails. They start to become smart, independent and strong in their teens (like is biologically normal).
Best advice I can give you is to feed this part of yourself and actively look for when people are trying to sabotage it. Once you are aware of it, you can prevent it from effecting you. Turn this to your advantage and success to get what you want in life.
While kids are acting like jackasses, you go after money, education, power, and all the best women. This will mortify everyone around you, but realistically, they are powerless to do anything about it. You will reap huge rewards for this. Never explain what you are doing to anyone. The vast majority of people won't understand and will try to convince you to be "normal". Ignore them.
I just noticed you were a girl. You have a special issue to deal with..men. Every woman wants the best men but their is strong social pressure to prevent you from getting them. Instead, you are expected to be nice, look pretty and some guy will come along. If you aren't passive, people treat you like a **** (meanwhile, those treating you this way are desperately screwing every loser on the planet).
Don't fall for that bullshit. As a woman, one of the most important things you need to do is to find the best man possibly available and make him yours. Your time window to effectively do this is from age 20 to 25 (latest is 30). After 25, your power to get him drops off dramatically. Before age 20, your experience isn't enough to choose wisely.
Anyway, you need to hunt him. Write down and constantly refine your ideas of what makes the best man for you. This includes what makes men (always go after MEN..never boys) attractive to you. Actively go places and seek out social situations where your type of man is likely to hang out.
Once you find him, making him yours is as simple as walking right up to him and telling him you like him. Make sure he understand that you are not a **** and that if he acts like a jackass you are going to kick his *** before getting rid of him. If he is involved with another woman, tell him to get rid of her immediately. Ignore the horrified looks of everyone around you, especially the daggers other women are throwing your way. They will NEVER have what you will have..the very best of men, who is yours, body, mind and soul. Use this as the lychpin for power and happiness in your life. Be especially leery of those jackass feminists who want to interfere with what you are doing. Their soul purpose is to derail you and trick you out of what should be yours (ie a good life).
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