Will you please answer this epically if male between ages of 24-3o?!
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If you had health problems/drug problems/ or serious problems and your mother had answers that you knew might help, how is the greatest way for your mother to phrase her suggestions to you about your problem? What can a mother do to help her son live a healthier life?
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NOT male, however any behavior that is dangerous must be handled. Tough love, never enable an addiction or user. Don't accept rationalizations or excuses. Find/offer help (medical, counseling etc.) and then step back until he accepts it or returns clean on his own. you cannot force anyone to get better, doing so only causes you grief and resentment from them. His choice must be sincere and from within. if you continue to be soft he will continue to take advantage.
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im 24 and i suggest that you don't tell them what to do, and don't act like you are right. Rather give him suggestions as to what you believe he should do and let it go from there. And most of all follow up with them.
I hate when my mother tells me what to do and says shes right, so i usually do the opposite.
be a good example, without being self-righteous. If you don't live the way you're expecting your son to live, anything you try to tell him will seem phony. Second, if it's just pot or alcohol and he's not using on a daily basis or heavily binging on the weekends, and more importantly, if he's not getting arrested or putting himself or others in dangerous situations, then you're better off just being a loving family member and letting him do his thing until he grows out of it. You also might try to ask him if there's something in his life or past that's causing him stress or grief. Drugs use is as often self-medication as it is recreation.
As far as health problems, if it's a serious chronic issue and he's got health insurance and is getting proper attention, then there's not much more you can do. If he's just a little heavy or unmotivated, encourage him to eat healthy and get excercise by challenging his ego - but not by insulting him. Tell him a friend of yours has a son who can run a 5 minute mile and ask him if he thinks that's fast.
If he's a wreck and can't keep the needle out of his arm or stay out of jail, there's nothing you can do but keep your distance and provide absolutely no financial or material support for him in any way.
The 20s are a time when most men experiment with boundaries. Once ambition, experience and anxiety over thier future kicks in at around 28, most guys tend to level out and get on track.
Most importantly, if he's not hurting others and is self-suficient and happy, let him be himself.
You should contact a drug-counseling center and ask for intervention assistance. They deal with this stuff every day.
Say to Son " I love you - but you need to DO IT - this way--to get off drugs, etc.
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