I cannot feel happiness, what should i do? Just answer, maybe you have a good op!


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I'm always sad or indifferent but RARELY happy no matter what happens. I'm a good looking guy who can exchange stares with chicks, and I have a job that I hate with quite good pay and I'm married to a wonderful person and we love each others so much and I have some good friends, but still I'm rarely happy. I even sometimes think of suicide but then I remember my wife and my parents and how this will affect them and feel it's so selfish of me, then I thought of making it appear like an accident like try sky-diving but don't open the parachute or overeat or research non-tracebale poisons, but then I change my mind cause it's too selfish. I really can't enjoy life and see it pointless. Could I have a deficit in "happiness genes"? Or the chemicals in my brain aren't functioning well? Or what else could be the reason? I just want to be a normal, happy person.
Please don't give me answers saying seek religion, that's a different things and I've tried anyway.
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You say you have a good job with good pay. But do you like what you do? Maybe that's the problem. Maybe you're not satisfied in your job. I think a therapist would help you find out what's keeping you from being happy. If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford to go see one. I think that's the first thing you should do. Sometimes we are not happy because of something in our lives but can't even admit it to ourselves. A therapist could help you.

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You need to talk to a doctor. I used to feel like this all the time, and I got counseling and was put on medication. While this didn't solve everything, it made life bearable again, and I've been feeling happy and myself lately. More than likely you have a seritonin imbalance. So you probably either need an MAOI or an SSRI medication.

Also, faking accidents is not cool, and there are no non-traceable poisons. Even if you overdose on a natural compound, they'll figure it out. Gotta love CSI.

You suffering depression. Go see your doc.

1 in 10 of his patients suffer from this, so he has heard it all before.

Modern meds are very good for this.

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Depression is often driven by chemical imbalance. Lack in serotonin might very well be the cause, and if so, you have good medications for it these days, that someone with a good job should be able to afford.
Psychologically speaking, what do you expect to find when you go away? Do you have any idea, what kind of feeling would you get if you got your freedom at last? Wouldn't you say this feeling is the closest approximation of happiness you have recently had? If that is the case, concentrate on that feeling. Try to imagine what it would be like if you had this feeling of freedom tomorrow. Then picture yourself actually having it.
You see, the trick is to realize that one can give himself true happiness. It is not an emotion, it is a state of mind, and you can change your state of mind with the assistance of a trained psychologist or hypnotherapist.
Many people who are currently unhappy, have had some childhood problems, or abuse of some kind. Only by working with a specialist will you be able to find out if there is some cause in your past for your depression. If there is, you will be guided into fixing it. It is my assumption that your therapist would try to back trace into your childhood, and find the creative center in your life you might have had. Then, when such a center found, and all possible negative emotional habits from your childhood eliminated, you are on your way to happiness. It doesn't help you now, but at least you should know there is hope for you yet, and you can get it soon enough.
Also, keep in mind another factor. Those who really want to kill themselves simply do so. By posting your question you have demonstrated your awareness of the problem, and your willingness to work on it. This is a very reassuring factor, as any healer would tell you, that bodes well for your future. Good Luck.

The fact is there is a single source of all your problems, stress, unhappiness and self doubt. It's called The Reactive Mind. the hidden part of your mind that stores all painful experiences, then later uses them against you.
It is not necessary to live with insecurity , negative thoughts, depression and irrational behavior. There is a solution.
Dianetics gets rid of the Reactive Mind.
If you read the book" Dianetics The Modern Science of Mental Health"
it explains the real reason for negative emotions and unhappy relationships. Also what is destroying your belief in yourself and how to get rid of it and become more You.
This book has sold over 20 million copies worldwide and been translated into over 50 languages since it first came out in 1950.

check out www.dianetics.org
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